Here are a couple of books out there about working on yourself so that you can be the best you can be when you are plan A'ing. Both of these books were alot of help to me. They aren't huge either. Hope you try them.<P>Becoming Strong Again (How to regain Emotional Health) by Gregory L. Jantz<P>The Courage to be Yourself (A Woman's Guide to Growing Beyond Emotional Dependence) by Sue Patton Thoele<P>And no the second one doesn't tell you to move on, it teaches you how to conquer your fears and be happy. <P>Gerri