Before I found out about my H's affair, he had planned to go away for a tournament in a couple of months. We are Plan Aing it right now. He and I were talking on the phone today and something about the trip came up, I don't remember what, but he brought it up. The person going with him is a friend of ours (male only). I know this is true because a different person putting on the tournament called me to get information on my "H" and he doesn't know about my H's affair. Any how, I was told by my H that our friend's girlfriend is mad at him because he didn't ask if she wanted to go. When they discussed it he told her the only she could go if I went. I can't go because of kids, school and sports at that time of year. I asked if I could go if we could find someone to sit maybe I could go. He said we will discuss it later at home and in person. But since my son's family (child by x-husband)isn't close and I can't depend on friends, to put that much time on taking care of my son. I guess I didn't get the response I wanted from my H. I will talk to him about it tonight. Any thoughts, or I am over thinking here?

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by bighope:<BR><B>We are Plan Aing it right now.</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><BR>Don’t know your story, but “We” don’t Plan A. You do Plan A.<P>Is your H still having an affair?<P>Not sure exactly what you are asking. Is it a love buster to ask if you can go with your H to the tournament? That is not a lovebuster.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>

When I first found out about my h affair and was in counseling, my counselor asked what I had been having an affair with, meaning what was I putting in front of my h. Work very hard at finding a friend to take care of your child or hire a person to babysit. This would cost extra, but would go a long way in showing your h that he truly is number one in your life.

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Chris (CA123):<BR><B> <P><BR>No his isn't having an affair, it ended on D-Day and no contact since. Withdrawl is very tough, from day to day. Good days and bad days. <BR>