My H is having a difficult time in making a successful come back to me. He does not want to hurt anyone including her. I know he has deep feelings for her but he is so afraid of hurting her. He has left me 2 times so far and her only once. We did it wrong the first time and even long ago before he moved out and when affair first revealed. I was not blunt enough in what I expected from him. He was still under the impression he could have contact with her. Now he realizes this was wrong but he is afraid to leave her for some reason.<P>I would really like some insight to this if anyone has to offer some. Also, what are the real important ground rules to set for when (hopefully) he returns home? <P>I am sure he is also afraid of hurting me, but I have been very understanding considering what I have been through and I am sure many, many here know what that is. I think he knows coming back to me is right because of my faith in him. There is just not that bond between him and OW. We have been married for over 20 years.<P>Thanks, Pam