I don't want to sound like I'm putting anyone down, I think it's just that I'm really down today.<BR>It seems like everyone is saying the WS is in fantasy land and they'll eventually understand and hopefully come home. So many people think there S is going to come home, isn't that living in a fantasy land? I don't know how you can keep that hope alive. <BR>Maybe I know my marriage is over and there's no hope or chance for it to ever work out, and that's why I'm thinking it's all a fantasy. <BR>I'm sorry I just really want to know how everyone is so hopeful? I'm finding it very hard, because he doesn't want anything to do with me.<BR>Can someone please help me to understand?

Some came on faith. Some came on a belief in myself to be able to learn and grow to meet my husband's needs. The rest came from implementing changes and watching the results.

broken-heart,<P>You asked how you keep the hope.....<P>I think it depends on where you find hope in the first place. I have found that putting my faith in people usually ends in failure. To make a goal that only another person can meet is setting yourself up for failure.<P>I have found that putting my faith in God to work in my life His will is the only means of fulfillment.<P>The bible says, "Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen". If something has already come to pass and we see it then we don't need any faith. Faith is believing that something can actually happen. It is not some false confidence but placing your trust in God to make all things work out for good in your life.<P>That is the only kind of hope that has ever worked for me. God never disappoints.<P>Blessings, Taj<P>------------------<BR>"Perfect love casts out fear" I John 4:18