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I wonder what else they might have in common.<P>Age? (mine is 50)<BR>Length of marriage? (we have been married 20 years, together 25)<BR>Did they indicate marriage was in trouble before the affair? (mine did not)<BR>
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Husband is 32 and I am 30<BR>We have been married 11 years<BR>My husband did not indicate he had any problems in our marriage. I had concerns but he said he was happy. HA!<P>My spouse in not angry with me though and he is being nice... I just caught that after I posted this. Sorry!<P>Woozy<p>[This message has been edited by woozy (edited March 13, 2000).]
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Age....mine is 45<BR>Married 22 years together 28<BR>He did not indicate there were any problems in the marrige prior to hi affair.<BR>As for anger, he does not direct it at me...never has... but he just seems angry about the rest of the world all the time..<BR>Kathy
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He's 47, I'm 45. We were married fifteen yrs. when he walked out. He was always angry at something, someone. A malcontent from the beginning. But now he has conveniently deposited ALL of his anger at me.
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Age? (I'm 41... W is 39(MLC))<BR>Length of marriage? (12 years, known her for 4+ yeats before +some of her childhood)<BR>Did they indicate marriage was in trouble before the affair? (subtle signs that I did not catch upon... always said we'd never divorce.)<BR>Anger is intense... all at me... very verbally abusive...<P>Jim
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Husband is 45 and I am 46<P>We have been married over 22 years and known each other about 3 or so years before.<P>H always had mistrust for me. He would think I was cheating on him and I never did. On internet I started chatting with people then went home to visit family (he thought I was going to cheat on him and did not). When I was gone he started chatting and picked up OW online. I did not know until 8 months later. Husband always told me how much he loved me and how we would be together forever. He told me he loved me more than I did to him even though I did love him. He always said it was the chemisty and he couldn't live without me.<P>He was never angry at me at least he never showed it. He still is not angry and me and tells me he loves me a little.<BR><p>[This message has been edited by Pinky (edited March 14, 2000).]
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I'm 35...H is 34<BR>married for 14.5 years. Known each other for 20 years, we went to school together.<BR>He's not really angry with me, but plays with my mind. Makes things up that I never did or exaggerates to lessen his guilt.<P>The 3 years prior to affair were the best we'd ever had. He says he was miserable and unhappy, but I think that's just an excuse to justify the affair. He had the affair while away on an extended business trip and it continues to this day. We are separated...headed for divorce.<P><P>------------------<BR>Blessed be.<BR>****************<BR>Keridwen<P>Keridwen_7@yahoo.com
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Both of us are 37 years old<BR>Never, ever gave me any indication of any unhappiness in the marriage.<BR>In fact went to Las Vegas 2 months prior to discovery and had a blast. Wanted to renew our vows when there. Never did though.<BR>He is angry at anyone associated with me....including our children.<BR>Asked me to marry him again, 1 month prior to walking out...redid engagement ring and all...really was pretty<BR>Kissed me and told me he loved me and left to buy Easter candy and never came back
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Age-30<P>Intuitively I knew some of my behavior made him unhappy. I felt really guilty sometimes with the things I said, but he didn't let on.<BR>I got wrapped up in that unconditional love means you can do whatever you want thing.<BR>Still my annoying lovebusters wouldn't have destroyed the relationship so fast if it wasn't for the fact that all hades broke out. That certainly helped things along.<P>We've been married 4 years and knew each other 5 before that point. We lived together 1 which makes us a textbook example of the living together scenario.
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I'm 30 H is 32<BR>Married 10 1/2 yrs<BR>Together 3 1/2 before that<BR>Alot of problems in the marriage (abuse, alcoholism)<BR>Now is angry with me all the time about anything.
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