My husband is having a email, "friendship" affair.When he cant talk to her,he talks to her teenage son.He refuses to get off of ICQ.He says if he stops talking to her it will just be someone else.(he has made many phone calls to this ow,and flew to her state to visit her).Lovebusting for him is when I ask him to stop communicating with her.I am so insecure about are relationship , I keep asking him what are future is,(another lovebuster.This weekend we are going overnight to a motel.PLease pray for me that I will not do any lovebusting ever again. Sometimes I feel hopeless because I am trying to meet H emotional needs so hard,yet "Surviving a Divorce" says he may not feel this because he is emotionally envolved with ow.My prayers are with you all.Bethn<P>------------------<BR>

Have you read NSR's "Really great Plan A post" ? It may help you.<BR> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/011323.html" TARGET=_blank>www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/011323.html</A>

Welcome <B>bethn</B>...<P>Sorry I missed your first post...<BR>I try to keep up on the "newbies"... but sometimes I get overwhlemed too.<P>I have a post of general welcome I wish to share with you... <P>It has a lot of quick links to many of the <B>most</B> important MB sites...<BR>Click here ==> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000002.html" TARGET=_blank>General Welcome for All New Builders(Newbies)</A><P>For some clarity... a while ago... the "main" forum was divided into 4 separate "sub" forums...<BR><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/cgiwrap/marriage/forumdisplay.cgi?action=topics&forum=Just+found+out...&number=29&DaysPrune=10&LastLogin=" TARGET=_blank>Just found out...</A>...for those new the forum... pre/post "discovery" of an affair or possible affair.<BR><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/cgiwrap/marriage/forumdisplay.cgi?action=topics&forum=Plan+A/Plan+B&number=30&DaysPrune=10&LastLogin=" TARGET=_blank>Plan A/Plan B</A>...usually after "discovery of the affair"...for those with questions of "what to do now?"<BR><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/cgiwrap/marriage/forumdisplay.cgi?action=topics&forum=In+recovery&number=31&DaysPrune=10&LastLogin=" TARGET=_blank>In recovery</A>...when a commitment to work on marriage by both spouses has begun.<BR>We are being asked to post the forums that make the most sense with respect to our questions/vents and not just dump everything into the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/cgiwrap/marriage/forumdisplay.cgi?action=topics&forum=General+Questions&number=28&DaysPrune=10&LastLogin=" TARGET=_blank>General Questions</A> forum because it will give you the most responses! <P>The general jist of MB is to recommend following <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A> as much as you can.<P>I think... if you are having probelms with this that contacting a counselor would help a lot! I'd recommend that you have a couple of <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7200_phone.html" TARGET=_blank>telephone counseling sessions</A> ($85US a pop... but well worth it) with <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7010_about.html" TARGET=_blank>Steven W. Harley</A>. Check out the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7000_counsel.html" TARGET=_blank>Counseling Center</A>... and for some specifics... <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7015_fee.html" TARGET=_blank>Fees for Counseling Services</A> and <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7020_sched.html" TARGET=_blank>Scheduling an Appointment</A>! If you compare this cost to the beginnings of a divorce process... you'll see the benefit right away!<P>Don't feel you can't be honest with your H...<BR>Hoesty is very important...<BR>...but if it lead you to <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3400_lovebust.html" TARGET=_blank>Love Bust</A>... take it slowly.<P>There was a good post I have referenced on my <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000013.html" TARGET=_blank>Notable Posts/Threads</A>... called...<A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum30/HTML/000008.html" TARGET=_blank>Using a "filter" to not LB</A>... check it out too!<P>Yes... I'm praying for you this weekend... <P>Jim