<BR>Hi Everybody -<P>Well, he finally called and broke the silent treatment after our screamfest a couple weeks ago!!!<P>Thank goodness...cuz I REALLY hate that!!!!<P>We talked a bit and he asked what mail I had for him...told him and mentioned the car insurance bill.<BR>He said he'd pay it - no problem!! YAY!!!!<P>We talked some about his outburst and he said "do you know how much stress I have on me?" <P>Can you believe this? How much stress HE HAS!!! He's out there doing his thing without a care about who or what he left behind and no responsibilities and he has stress....... <P>Unbelievable....<P>He wants me to see if we can have a mediation with our lawyers and work the divorce out that way instead of court..... I told him I would tell my lawyer. He's not going to like the thought of giving me anything....so I don't think that will work!! I'll mention it though....<P>I have had a strange "feeling" for a while now about who he's getting pressure from and why...<P>I am hoping and praying that the OW isn't pregnant or something and is just LB'ing......<P>Pray that this is so, because my H never wanted kids and would not make a good Dad.....trust me!!! Heck, he can't even deal with "the stress" he has in his Fantasyland!!!!<P>He just wants to get on with his life and wants the divorce over quickly!!!! Ah, do you feel the love........<P>GRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!<P>But, I am happy because he has started talking to me again - that is a big relief off my heart!!! Could not bear the marriage to go out like that!!!!<P>Hugs,<P>Sheba<P>

Hey, Girl!! I'm glad he's talking again, too. I kinda agree that a mediator wouldn't be able to get much outta him, but you're nice to talk to your lawyer.<P>How's it been going? Otherwise, I mean. BTW, your package should arrive early next week. Been fighting w/ my computer most of the week and all my patterns and templates were "locked up". (In other words, we somehow killed the application I ran them in and I could SEE them,but couldn't GET them!!) All's better now, though.<P>Hang in there, at least you guys are talking again!<P>Lori

Hi Lori - Thanks for taking the time and trouble to help me out with this Xmas stuff!!!! I really appreciate it!<P>I'm feeling pretty good and now even better with him talking and the car insurance paid!!!!<P>What about you....been waiting for any updates you might have!!<P>So what's the story? Talk to MIL at all and if so did you mention anything on the idea from my dream? <P>What are you planning for XMas? Your family lives far from you right? Any chance you can get there if this limbo is still on?<P>HUGS,<P>Sheba

Sheba,<P>Glad he finally called! Great that your H is going to pay the car insurance, too.<P>I had to laugh about his comment about HIS STRESS! My H told me on Monday that "Life isn't fair!" I had to bite my tongue to keep from jumping up and screaming in his face - "You think it's being fair to ME right now?????" But, I knew the LB police (NSR and unnamed others!) would be hiding under my bed and get me for it! So, I held a neutral face and said nothing. Both VERY HARD for a CAJUN to do..... <P>Roll Me Away<P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>

Hey! Yup, Mom and I have been talking. I don't know if you'd say a lot has happened or a little - lot of waffling, little real progress!!!! <P>I guess I oughta start a thread, but y'all will think I'm nuts. And right now, I'm so mad I could spit nails!!! <P>Do you believe that??? Lori is actually ANGRY!! At that stupid, manipulating, lying little PT!!! This is the first time I've gotten angry with either of them.<P>Oh, well, better calm down first and talk about it later. Suffice it to say, she publicly humiliated him on T-day in front of family and she's going above and beyond the call of duty (even for the little ***** she is!!) to keep him from us! It was so bad that when H asked if she could pick up a bowl of soup mom had made for him, she said "If she knocks on the door and lets me pass it through to her, I guess it might be ok." Uh, Huh.<P>Tired now. Morning comes early. And here I jumped right in on your nice thread. This anger thing is weird! I do believe there's a little b**** in me after all!! <P>Be good - as always. I'll talk to you later.<P><BR>Lori

Hi Sheba-<P>Glad to hear he broke the silence. I don't think there is anything worse than the silent treatment!!<P>Let me know if/and or when the mediation thing works out. I would like to try that route myself. I don't know if it would works, being as we don't communicate well right now!!<P>Still got that candle burning!<P>Cheryl

Glad he called. Happy he choked up the bucks. Be nice, be the Sheba we love, but don't let him leave you struggling.<P>Get your share. You've got a life to live.<P>You did not do this. Let him pay the natural consequences of his actions.<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13

hi sheba, very happy that he called. And you must have been so charming to get him to pay the insurance! Hey, good things are happening girl. Keep your head straight.

Sheba -- I'm so happy that he called, you deserved some relief. We are of one mind about the "silent treatment". Oh, how many dozens of times in the last few years I have had to deal with that! And I don't deal with it very well at all!<P>I'm relieved about the insurance. That was one important issue. I feel exactly as you do about "the marriage to go out like that", but it's getting harder and harder to keep things on track.<P>Your H must be certifiably insane to walk out on you. Most men would give their right arms to have a wife like you.<P>His desire to have mediation rather than court seems rather suspicious, like he's afraid how much he would lose if it was left to a judge to determine. Whereas in mediation, he looks like a good guy and hopes it will pressure you to take it easy on him.<P>My thoughts are with you, and a whole passel of e-hugs are flying down the wires as I type. Take care.

well sheba, i will pray for you. how selfish we men can be at times. what a life and we need to look in the mirror each and every day and see who is the cause of our problem(s). i wont bore you with all the details, but my w and i are back together and have been for 3 weeks now. we talk with dr. "H" weekly. what a man of insight and patience. he is great. i will say htat our live and marriage is looked on much differently now. i was baptized in a little church in chestnut hill, pa. i had asked my wife to come but she said no. we wrere talking 2-3 times a week then. she even once demanded that i come back to las vegas now, or there would not be any chance of marriage reconciliation. i was in the middle of Bible studies and told her no, that i would come to las vegas after i was baptized. NOW, i told her i was putting God first in my life and i loved her and wanted the marriage towork, but i was going to be baptized, then would come to her. FUNNY,i was wanting that more tahn anything and now was telling her no. anyway, i was getting ready in the church for baptism and the pastor came over to me and said, jerry your wife is here. i said no, it must be a mistake cause she said she was not coming. i went and looked and WOW, there she was sitting in the front of the church. needless to say the baptism was a great experience. only her and dr. harley knew she was coming. we both returned to las vegas on nov. 14. we have had a lot of things to work out, but it has been worth it. i want tothank you for your words of encouragement during my postings. i hope and pray for you and for your well being. thanks for your prayers.<BR>jerry

Hey Sheba!!<P>Glad to hear the good news!!!!! About time somebody around here got some type of good news for a change.<P>My stbx is still paying part of the mortgage, although she now only pays half of it at each pay. I don't know what she does with all her money now, she's working pretty much full time and her rent is cut in half now that om is paying half. Must be a control thing!