Hey fellow betrayeds<P>The USA correspondence is all dried up by the looks (3:00AM) and they all turn in.<P>I was wondering if there were any Aussies out there as I was feeling like a chat as am really down and out at present.<P>See my story on "Can this marriage survive"<P>I currently live in Perth but am returning to my home town of Melbourne on Dec 19th, can't wait. My wife who hated Perth and also wanted to return has suddenly had a new lease of life here and wants to stay a while longer, wonder why????<P>Anyway if no one is around I will get dressed up and head for the nearest bar to drown my sorrows (first time I have done this in a looooong time).<P>Looking forward to your posts.<P>Regards<BR>Fairenough

Don't go, I'm still awake. I can't sleep. I'm not an Aussie, or betrayeds. I just need to keep busy. Life is strange. Yah? Do you ever feel that you can't stop the spinning of your life. you don't know where you are going to end up. I wish I could controll more of what is to come. But I can't. If your still here reply. click the sun glasses to see my story.<P>wanna talk?<BR>camjon

Camjon<P>That's some sort of sick joke what it must make you feel is hard to imagine.<P>Sounds to me like someone is trying to get back at either you or your husband. Do you have any enemies that you are aware of? Does your husbands line of business promote ill feelings with competition, etc?<P>These are the lines I would be investigating. The doubt of trust is the worst thing that can happen in a marriage believe me I talk from experience.<P>Has your husband's attitude changed towards you in any way (prior to this revelation)?<P>I feel for you as not knowing either way must be the worst of feeelings. <P>Feel for you<BR>Regards<BR>Fairenough<P>

My husband does work in a competitive work environment. He is very sarcastic to everyone even me. He is a full time joker. Its fun but sometimes I want to be serious and he does not know how to be. He was the type of person that everyone seemed to like. But I think he t's alot of people off and doesn't know it. It gets old. Just little cracks at you all the time can really ware a person down. It has me. We have always been very trusting with eachother. We always looked at our friends getting in fights over jealousy matters. I thought it was so stupid. I now relize that mabe I should have been more aware of what was going on. The day before I recieved this letter, I was soo mad at him.. He was suppose to be home at 6:00pm he wasn't home. So I called him and he said that the vice pres of the company was taking him and a couple other people out for dinner and that he would be home no later than 8:00pm ok thats fine. Well 9:00-10:00 went by. I called him, I paged him about 20 times. Kinda impulsive right. Then I get this call from one of his friends asking if he was in big dodo for not coming home. I said yes. and hung up the phone. He didn't get home until 12:00am smelling of alcohol. with flowers and fish food ice cream. Well I told him to shove....@@##$#$#%%^&#$$# and so on. He then said I'm going to bed and that was the end of it for him. He said they were accross the street at a bar from work thats all. Then the letter came. I contacted his boss about it and she said that they went to a casino? excuse me another lie. So I don't know what to think about all this. All I know is it's late and I cant sleep. Please respond.<P>Thanks<BR>camjon

Camjon<P>You may not want to hear it but I think you should prepare yourself for the worst. Then if it proves to be all OK you are in for a pleasant suprise.<P>Firstly to have conflicting stories there is something to cover up even if it is not an affair.<P>If I were you I would be setting a time to sit down calmly with your husband and explain that dishonesty in the relationship is worse than anything he may have done. Explain the inconsistencies in stories of his wherabouts last night and reason with him regarding the truth. <P>In my case and almost everyone elses this is what really hurts more than whatever acts are being covered by the deceipt.<P>Honesty is the least a partner can give to a relationship. My W is still constantly deceiptfull to me about the OM and her contact with him despite us having lived separately for 3 months. <P>Appeal to his sense of decency in being honest with you and see how you go. Explain that you are really hurt and feeling insecure regarding the inconsistent stories when asking him to explain.<P>My thoughts are with you.<P>regards<BR>Fairenough

Hi fairenough .... fellow vegemite eater!!<P>There are a few of us around. So far, I've identified Aussies (apart from me!)...Blackheart (alias Raenbow), Bonnet, and I think Big Daddy.<P>Haven't got much time to talk tonight, but yeah, the time difference is a real bummer.<P>Hang in there

Hey, by the way, Perth's FAR nicer than Melbourne !!!! Rains too much over that way!!! I'm not in Perth, but my loyalties lie with the West!!!

Just wanted to say thank you for your point of view.<BR>camjon

Camjon<P>Please let us know how you go. <P>Remember that you have many friends to support you if need be and believe me, from experience, that helps a whole lot.<P>I wish you all the very best<P>God bless!!<P>Kindest regards<BR>Fairenough

Thanks for your posts Sosad, good to see a couple of Aussies on the circuit. BlackHeart has already posted a reply to one of my issues, wasn't aware he was a dinky <BR>die.<P>Any way look at the time here in Perth now 03.30 and still going strong. Then again infidelity does affect your sleep doesn't it?<BR>Regards<BR>Fairenough

Hey fairenough,<P>I'm in downtown Brisbane.<BR>I've just moved back home from Melbourne, after H got new job and new woman!!!<P>We were living in Sydney for the last 2 years, but in Melb for 11 years before that. He got new job back in Melbourne, I moved back to Melb for 8 weeks, where I found out what was going on, he wouldnt commit to me, so I came back up here to my family.<P>I much prefer melb the city, to Brisbane the city, but its so good to be with my family.<P>I used to visit Perth once a week when I was flying, I loved it. Too far away tho.<P>Good to chat to some fellow Australians.<P>Jo

Hey, my H DuncanMac's OW was an expatriate Aussie living in Los Angeles... does that qualify me for anything? (like G'DayMate-in-Law or something??)LOL!<P>(hi, there, Dunkie! Tongue firmly in cheek!)

Suse,<P>you wacker !!!!!!<P>I don't know anyone who genuinely says G'day mate !!!!<P>Welcome to our little Aussie club - of course you're qualified to join !!!<P>Hugs to you, funny girl<BR>Jo