I really need some advice here, so I've posted this in Recovery also.<BR>I have no idea what to make of this. Maybe some of you do. My wife's been in withdrawals/recovery since 2/4 supposedly.<P>My wife's ups and downs - I'm leaving you; I'm not going anywhere and we're together - used to be about 3 weeks apart. After she first tried ending it with OM, the ups and downs became about 2 weeks apart. The past three weeks they've been about one week apart, deciding to leave and then later committing to stay and work it out. <P>Now, the ups and downs are even closer together, only days apart. And, each time she commits to the marriage it seems more sincere, but then afterwards her depression/sadness/meanness gets worse also.<BR>She's even told me three times that she could no longer have sex with me, and each time gave in within two days.<P>She is scheduled to see the counselor again after nearly 2 months off (we're supposedly "ON" again, but she's meaner than ever). Yes, he does still call supposedly infrequently due to work requirements. <P>Does this make any sense?<P>SamH <BR>