All,<P> My wife told me this morning as I went to leave for work, "I Love You". This comes from someone what had an affair, told me she loved me during the affair, told me she loved me after discovery of the affair even when she was still trying to see him. This comes from someone who seems to be in love with me, who has helped me though this mess, yet someone who has desire for intimacy with me.<P> I'm confused, I feel like I am back a square one. <P> CAN I BELIEVE THESE WORDS ARE ALL THAT HAS HAPPENED ????????????????????????

Getting better: I would say that you can believe her. She probably has never stopped loving you. She has gone through a confusing part of her life and most times that throws folks off with their priorities. If she has struggled with mental illness as I do, we make decisions that are not always in our best interests. It will take a while for the OP to get completely out of the picture in her mind, but she is making progress because she is still with you. That shows you that you are the only one she can trust, truly love and feel comfortable with. Our physical bodies in a kind of ESP way let us know when something we are doing is not right for us. I know it sounds weird, but we do have bodily ques such as butterflies when we get nervous. As I said before, we don't realize until after the fact that if we ever need to go looking for our hearts desire, we don't need to look further than our own back door.(Wizard of OZ) Some people have to learn lessons the hard way like myself. Much luck to you and your spouse

Sobeit,<P> Thanks, I am really trying to be patience. I am trying not to let this get the best of me. I stuggle with why our marriage can get 3 A's and 2 F's. It means a lot to hear it from you.<P> Now you did it, I become over whelmed with emotion again. I have had this gut feeling that the problem may be me and my interpution. I hear you and NSR and this feeling is growing. Maybe I'm just being over sensitive.<P> Thank You, Thank You, Thank You !!!!!<P>Joe<BR>

As a betrayer,I once claimed these same actions.<P>Yes, she does really love you...<P>Sometimes it all semms so surreal but behind all the cloudiness love does prevail<P>Take care