I was here last year and received help when I had troubles in my marriage.<P>I came here today to find help for a new problem.<P>What's happened to this forum?<P>I expected to see posts giving advice on how to use Marriage Building principals.<P>I see talk about Divorce instead of building a marriage. (there's other sites for Divorce support)<P>I see fights about child support. (there's other sites for child support)<P>What happened to the forums purpose?<P>Reading the posts on this site is discouraging to me. I think I'll find a more positive place to learn my marriage building technics.<P><BR>

Jan,<P>For me, I started here wanting to rebuild my marriage in December. But I've learned in the past 3 months that I can't rebuild mine. It's not the best thing for my or my kids safety. I am one headed for divorce.<P>I stick around to try and give some comfort and advice to the new people and to the ones who have been here and are still working on their marriages. I don't post much about myself. Only if it helps in the situation.<P>Sorry if it seems that almost everyone is headed for divorce right now. It's just the way things have turned out. There is some discussion about adding a forum for those who are divorced or are going thru a divorce.<P>Mitzi

Jan,<P> Mitzi is right about there are those that even when they were unable to save there marriage they have become VERY helpful to those of us that are still working on it.<P> It takes the advice from all sides of these issues to be able to view what is happening in ones life.<P> I again that if all someone is interested in is getting a divorce this is the wrong place to be, but there are those like Mitzi who would like to have seen things work out differently.<P> I have the a lot of good advice here give it a shot.<BR>

If you want advice, the first thing you have to do is ask for it. <P>It's always good to read other people's posts, but they're not always relevant or helpful to your situation, as you've found. Instead of complaining about not being able to find somebody in a similar situation and reading their posts and advice to them, why don't you simply ask for yourself?<P>Some people have discovered that divorce is their only option, no fault due to MB, but to their spouses' unwillingness to try and cooperate. Some have unfortunately found themselves in a tug-of-way involving their children. Do they not have any right to support from the people who tried to help them save their marriages? Don't they have a right to come here and ask for advice, opinions, insight, and shared experiences?<P>MB is what you make of it. If you want advice, first you have to be proactive and go post and ask for it!<P>------------------<BR>~~ Elixir ~~<P>