Mercy<P>I hope to gain some insight as to what my wife is going through like yourself.<P>Can you explain how you feel toward your H and what if anything would help for you to try and work out your marriage? (Come home and quit seeing the OM) Do you continue to see the OM? Why? Is it almost a lost cause in my case, it seems as if my W is just running from everything and to the OM. My W acts like there are no feelings when we last spoke on Fri. and we were intimate 2 days this week when she said later that she was trying to see how she felt and she felt really drug down again like she had no motivation and she just wanted to lie around. I told her I felt that she was just really tired and finally relaxed for a while. What can I do to try and get her to stop seeing the OM, nothing? I know I cannot force her but isn't she drawing closer to him and futther from me the more she is with him?<P>I guess I just want to try and understand her feelings so that I can help her through her times of misery.<P>Anything you might be able to say would help I am sure. Thank you so much.

caj1, <P>had to edit this sorry.<p>[This message has been edited by mercy (edited March 25, 2000).]