I thank you all for your responding to my post,I can't say that you don't understand,but you don't understand.<BR>I realy do love my wife,and my life,with her.<BR>Things could have been diffrent if I had only not strayed.<BR>I loved the O/W very much and still do,it has been almost 30 days since I have talked to her and I can't stop thinking of her.<BR>I want to have a baby,wife can't have baby's anymore,and I'm 36 and no kids what do I do? And I hope my does not see this post because I do not want to hirt her anymore then i already have......"I love you my honey":O<BR><p>[This message has been edited by Jake/36 (edited March 29, 2000).]

Jake,<BR>Glad to see you back. I was wondering about you.<BR>It is true that I don't understand and I can only imagine the pain and sorrow that you are feeling right now. I know that withdrawl from the OP can be a very hard thing. There are many here who gone through it and have emerged on the other side feeling whole again. I hope some of them respond to you and let you know that it doesn't go on forever(even though it feels like it will).<BR>As for the children thing, I wish I could offer you some sort of advice in that direction. Not knowing the whole story as to why your W can't have kids makes it difficult. Is an operation posible? What about adoption? Or even foster children? For some people the last 2 options have been very rewarding. Does your W know how much you really desire to have a family? This could fall into one of your most important emotional needs. It is a decision that has to be made together because it will affect you both for the rest of your lives.<BR>Talk to her, share with her and love her.<BR><P>------------------<BR>Love and Prayers<BR>Nicole

Nicole,<BR>my wife is the best person i have ever met in my life.I would not be here today if it were not for her.She loves me more than anyone has loved me before and she understands my ADD more than anyone.<BR>As 4 having kids,the doctor has taken her female parts out and so she can not have a child.It is inportant to me that i have a chance to leave this world with my name caried on.i hope you can help me.hugs Jake.

is the problem that you have with your wife that you love the OW or that your wife can't have kids? Are you thinking of having children with OW? Help us understand why you feel you went to OW.

jake/36,<P>If you would like to carry on the line, then you can adopt. You could solve many problems by doing so. Let me list a few of them.<P>1) A child that would not have a good home will have one.<P>2) You wife who probably feels the lose of not being able to have children more than you, would have a child to share with you.<P>3) You could help make your wife very happy by being a father to the child she could have naturally, but has now.<P>4) You can make sure the family name is carried on, although I warn you that tradition seems to be slipping fast.<P>5) You just might just find out that being a father with your wife is far more rewarding than any of the alternatives that you have chosen so far.<P>Not a complete list but something to think about. If what you have said on this thread is true, then this is a win-win-win situation. A child is given a family, your wife wins, and you win.<P>Think about it.<P>God Bless,<P>JL

I love my wife with all my heart!<BR>No I do not have any plans to have a baby with o/w I have caused way to much pain in our lives and would like to make it up to my wife if I can.I am trying to work on my marriage and our lives again so that my spouse can and will trust me again,I NEED her to know that I love her very much and want to be with her and her ONLY!!!!!