Well, he just left. When he got here, he said he wanted to talk to me about the job he is looking into. It looks like he will most likely get it. The supervisor wants to come and meet me. I guess the reason is because he wants to see how supportive of a wife I am. Well, I told my husband that I think I can be very supportive. You know, after what all he has put me through. I told him just to have him home in my bed every night and to know he will be home on weekends is enough to make me be supportive.<P>The supervisor for this new job knows my husband is having an affair. He doesn't know that my h is living with the other woman though. He thinks he is still living at home. He will be coming over with my husband on Tuesday night possibly. Then my husband says he is moving back on Friday. That is my sons birthday. I am very scared and nervous about everything. <P>My husband said he has had enough of living with that woman and he just wants to be back home. I am worried about it all. <P>We took the boys to the park and talked about what we can do together as a family this summer. We want to take some camping trips. We talked about getting a motorcycle and going on trips with it... just the two of us.<P>I asked him if I should put my wedding ring back on. He told me he would have never taken his off except for the fact that I pointed out to him that he was still wearing it. <P>This is the scary time for me now. Now I have to learn to trust him again. I am scared because I want to believe in him right now but I am still afraid to. You know what I mean?<P>I am also scared because I don't know how it is going to go when he breaks it off with this woman. He is moving out while she is at work. He has his clothes, computer and some hotwheels there. I think that is about it. I really do hope he is sincere about wanting to come back. I guess that is what I am afraid of. You know how easy it is to have doubts about these things. <P>I have put a lot of faith in him right now in spite of all that he has done. If he hurts me again, I will simply be crushed! <P>Wish me luck and say lots of prayers for me! This is going to be one stressful week ahead! HELP ME TO GET THROUGH THIS GOD! HELP MY HUSBAND TO GET THROUGH THIS GOD!<P>I think I am going to try and call my mother-in-law. <P>Woozy

Woozy,<P>I will have my fingers crossed and be praying for you all week!!!<P>You are so close...just a few more days!!<P>Love ya,<BR>Mitzi

You are in my prayers. Good luck.<BR>Acacai

ALLRRRIIIIIGGGGGHHHHTTTT!!!!!!!!!<P>Get ready for recovery!!! <P> <P>Lori

fingers are crossed and praying for you and yours. Recovery, fingers crossed, recovery. New beginnings new memories.<P>Wishing you luck.<P>Mercy

Thank you guys for all the wonderful support! Wow! It is so good to have you all in my life!<P>I talked to my mother-in-law and she made me feel better. She said she thinks that my h never wanted to live with the other woman in the first place. I half way think that too. When he went there, I think he was escaping. He had gone to live with his brother and when that happened, I think he felt like he lost everything he had. His wife, his kids, his home and his ow. For some dumb reason, he ran to her. That is because he knew I wanted him to get counseling. The ow won't make him do any of those things. <P>This new job he will be starting will be lots of hours. BUT, the first 6 weeks, he has to ride with someone else! That is a good thing. You know... accountability. He won't be able to run off to the ow. He will be driving a Schwan's Truck and selling ice cream and frozen meats and that sort of thing. When he got here today, he made me go out to his car to listen to a cd he got the other day. It was quite ironic, there is a song on there called "I'm the Ice Cream Man". My h said that is his song now! I love it!<P>I truly hope he comes home on Friday for good. The ow will be at work when he moves out. He had told me he would be here at 3 on Friday because the boys will be home from school at that time. I won't be home from work until 5:30. It is my younger son's 8th birthday that day. I don't know if it is a good idea or a bad idea for him to move home on his birthday. I tell you what though, it is better than him moving home on my birthday. My birthday isn't until the 14th of this month. I can't wait that much longer! This is going to be the longest week of my entire life! New job, long days, waiting for my husband to move back home. <P>He said today that he can't wait to be back home and that it feels wierd to leave and go back to that woman.<P>I can't believe all the progress we have made! I am still praying like crazy for his exit from her place to go smoothly. It can't go too badly because she won't even be there. It is just that when she gets home and finds him gone that I worry about. If she doesn't raise a fuss I may worry too. I don't know. This is all to wild for me to even begin to be able to comprehend!<P>I just want to focus on us and get us better and stronger than ever before! I love this man so much! I never knew how much I loved him until all this happened. Funny, most people would say something like this would make you hate them. NOt me, I think I have grown to love him even more. I can't for the life of me understand that at all. I guess I just always thought he was the only one for me. I suppose this may just prove that.<P>Well, I better go. My boys have a friend staying over tonight. I need to figure out what I am going to make them for supper.<P>Woozy

woozy,<P>You have my prayers...<BR>I hard few days ahead for you!<P> <P>Jim

Woozy,<BR>Congrats on the BIG step, better this than another baby step, huh? I know that once you have him home again you can then start to work on reforming this marriage, God Bless!<P>------------------<BR>Chick's <BR>Bren<P>You won't see things until your ready to not be blind!

I had to laugh... I was talking to either my mother-in-law or a friend. I said I wondered if the ow had any idea that my husband was going to leave her. They said she would have to be about dense if she didn't realize it. That made me laugh. After thinking back over the last couple of weeks, my husband has spent as much time with us as possible. In fact, he stayed over one night and didn't call her to let her know he wouldn't be home. Then he stayed here until midnight another night. He didn't get back to her place until almost 1am. He didn't call her to let her know where he was that night either. <P>There are other nights where he was late getting home. So, I just wonder what she is thinking. Maybe she really is dense!!!LOL!!!<P>I am trying to focus on the positives. I am excited and scared for him to come back home. It will be a period of adjustment for all of us. The boys and I have been on our own for over 2 months now. 2 months and 3 plus days now to be exact. We have sort of got our own little routine going now and it has been working out great for us. <P>All in all, I will be really glad when he is back. I miss him so much! I told him I miss him and will be happy to have my best friend back.<P>Woozy<p>[This message has been edited by woozy (edited April 01, 2000).]

Woozy,<P>I have gone back and reviewed several of your past posts and in opinion things look really good for you. I have to say that I am very optimistic for you.<P>However, I would like to suggest that you read the reply that I gave to "IsThereHope" on her LB'ing post of late.<P>In my situation things seemed to be sorta like this.<P>At first my H & I were closer than we had been in a long time and it was almost like being newlyweds again. But that was sorta short lived, because my H went into the whole withdrawl thing.<P>It seems to be like that. Fist its like newlyweds again, then you go through the withdrawl stage and then you get back to normal.<P>IsThereHope posed the point that the website did not do much for addressing this issue in regards of how the BS can handle this in the most appreopriate way.<P>I tried to talk to her about this and share what I have learned from my experience having gone through the withdrawl thing with my H. <P>I think that you should read it too. Because although I certainly hope that you and your H can skip this stage the chances are that you will go through it in one aspect or another.<P>It will help you to know what to expect so that it won't upset, confuse and hurt you so much in the event that you do find yourself there.<P>Give it a gander...<P>Wishing your family the best that life has to offer. <P>Genie

Genie,<P>Thanks for sharing that with me. I am going to print it off and that way I can read it and reread it and make sure I get it right!<P>I know I have a lot of insecurities right now. That is the hard thing. I know I will have to be fully supportive of him. <P>He had gone to live with his brother before he moved in with the other woman. The boys and I would go and visit him on the weekends. Well, the one weekend, he called her and told her it was over and that he wasn't going to see her anymore. Oh my God, I wasn't prepared for that. It was awful. We went out to supper just the two of us and it was all he could do to keep from crying because he was missing her. That killed me inside. I tried so hard not to be upset. The thing is, I think it may have been harder on him because he felt like he had lost everything at that time, his wife, his kids, his house and the other woman. This time when he leaves her, he is going to have his wife, his kids and his house back. I am not kidding myself though, I know it isn't going to be easy.<P>I guess I just plan to take it slowly. I know that when he is here he is happy to be here. I know that it is hard for him to leave here. <P>I know he doesn't have a problem being with me physically already because we have been together that way a few times in the last week. I wasn't going to allow that to happen but it did. We both wanted it to. I know he is still very much attracted to me. That much is obvious. We always had a great sex life. <P>I know I want it to be all perfect and wonderful when he comes back but I also know that is unrealistic. The good thing is that when he does come back on Friday, we will have the weekend off together. So, we can have some time to regroup and all that. It will be strange to have him here again. <P>I just need to prepare myself for the battle. I need to be better than the other woman in how I support my husband. I need to be there for him when he needs me, love him and still make no judgements. I do want to start counseling with a pastor here in town but I am not going to push that right away. I guess I don't really know when a good time to start that is. I just want to focus on us and our relationship and how to make it better through this counseling. <P>Yep, I am still in for some tough times I am afraid but I really do think it is all worthwhile to fight for my marriage. I think my husband and I can have a wonderful life together. I just can't give up on that. There are so many things I was looking forward to in our lifetime TOGETHER! So, I will keep forging ahead and being the best, supportive, loving wife that I can be. <P>Thank you so much for the advice! I know I can do this! I know it won't be easy but I can do it!<P>Woozy