my heart of hearts knew that H went away with OW that weekend 6 weeks ago (leaving me for 4 days with a kidney infection, a 2 year old with horrible diarrhea, and a 2 week old baby). <BR>i gave him chance after chance to tell me the truth, and i started to let go. however, 2 days ago, i wrote him an email list of questions i HAD to have answered about the affair, and told him we would not discuss the issue outside of email. <BR>i never got any answers, and today i got his bank statement with an ATM withdrawal made FAR from where he was suppsosed to be, and NEAR where he had paid for OW's hotel room.<BR>i called him, crying, and told him i absolutely cannot take one more minute of this, and that it is over.<BR>any depsoits he's made in my lovebank recenly are now completely gone (i know his is empty, as i have really been lovebusting under the pressure of living with someone i know is not being faithful---it made my heart hurt so much i lost control).<BR>this is a setback that i dont think i can recover from....well, i can recover, but i do not want to. if he wants her, he can have her, obviously i mean nothing to him--he just buys my happiness with food i don't want (i swear, he brought home a whole bakery last weekend)<BR>he has been going out more and more to run "errands" at night, and not offering to leave his cell phone at home.<BR>oh, why snoop, i know the truth.<BR>goddbye, all.<BR>can anyone recommend a good divorce support board?

All I can say is I feel your pain and I am so sorry.

love Was blind,<P>My heart hurt for you when I read your post!<P>Sending caring thoughts and hugs to you via e-waves......<P>{{{{{{{{{{{{{loveWasblind}}}}}}}}}}}}}}<P>Roll Me Away<P><P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>

Hoping for miracles.<P>Take care of those kids, they've got a loving Mom.<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13

Praying for peace for you... I am so sorry... very sad post.<P>------------------<BR>The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction, not a destination.<BR>-Carl Rogers<BR>

thanks, all.<BR>that was just the last domino in a row for him to knock down. he can take his lies elsewhere.<BR>im just glad my babies are too young to really "get it".

lwb I'm sooo sorry. <P>{{{{{{{{{{{{{LWB}}}}}}}}}}}}<P>Lori

I'm so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Be strong for those two little ones. They really need you. I hope you have some family close by who can help you while you get your life sorted out. Reach out. You will find the most amazing people out there, when you are in a time of need. My sister told me that God always sends us a helper when we really need one. But, you have to be willing to accept some help. So, please reach out. God Bless you.

LWB,<P>So sorry for your pain. <P>I guess that there are so many people here that it isn't a coincidence that so many marriages may be ending at the same time. I was beginning to wonder if it was the moon or bio rythms or something that was making everything go wrong for so many people at one time.<P>My heart felt sorrow to everyone on this board and especially the ones that are going thru what LWB and others are right now.<p>[This message has been edited by RWD (edited December 03, 1999).]

hugs back to YOU, too, lori, thanks.<BR>sidney, i wish i had your post before the nce old jehovah's witness ladies came today. some reflex in me shooed them off, and i should have had them in to pray with me <BR>rwd...something must be in the air. misplaced holiday emotions? shorter days?<BR>depression=hoplesness=divorce.<BR>im just trying to be as good with the babies as possible, but my 2yo knows something is very wrong. i am sad for him.

LWB<BR>You don't have to leave this forum just because you are sick and tired of being sick and tired.<BR>UGGHHH.<BR>You have my hugs. <BR>TNT

thanks, tnt.<BR>god, this is so hard!

{{{{{{{{{{<B>love WAS blind</B>}}}}}}}}}},<P>I feel so bad for you today...<BR>Know that <B>we</B> all care... <P>I checked your profile... "raising my children"... <B>is</B> the most important thing you can ever do!!! <P>Love them like you've never loved them before... it'll help you too! <P>Ok... other stuff...<BR>I don't know your history... <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A>... <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B</A>... Plan <B>P</B>... whatever... I've only been here for a little over 2 months.<P>Just a recommendation to reinvest some effort into a <B>hard</B> and <B>firm</B> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B</A>...<P>Especially before any serious thought of a divorce begins...<P>I hope you use the following only in the distant future if at all... (first go back to a <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B</A>)... but...<BR>if you need to <B>protect</B> yourself leagally (and/or financially)... I usually make the recommendation of finding a <B>good</B> attorney. A good place to start off is at the <A HREF="http://lawyers.martindale.com/marhub/form/by.html" TARGET=_blank>Martindale-Hubbell Lawyer Search</A> site. Do a search within your county... look for only "family law" specialists... make sure they do a lot of "family law committee work"... if they know the judges all the better... You can norally find a few that will give initial counselling free of charge.<P>I always hate even mentioning the divorce route... but for some it <I>really</I> is inevitable. 2 quotes in these situations always come to mind... <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>(#3.) The (betrayed) spouse needs to know that he/she had done his/her best to save their marriage. (page 76 of SAA)<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>...and...<BR> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>(#4.) If the (betrayed) spouse follows the plans (A & B), and they(the plans) fail, the (betrayed) spouse would no longer have any feelings of love for the wayward spouse. (page 76 of SAA)<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>...ecouraging you (maybe) to end on a Plan B... instead of straight to a divorce!<P>Prayers in times of your crisis... <BR>Prayers for you and your children! <P>Jim<BR>------------------<BR>I can dare myself... I'll put a pebble in my shoe...<BR>I can walk... I can walk! I shall call the pebble Dare...<BR>Dare shall be carried... And when we both have had enough<BR>I will take him from my shoe, singing... "Meet your new road!"...<BR>Finally glad... Finally glad... That you are here... By my side...