My H is having an emotional, on-line affair possible PA. H refuses to stop talking to her through ICQ.H refuses to give me his password,therefore I can not read his E- mail.I have read where some of you have pulled up E mails between WS and OP. How can you do this without WS's password.<BR>Jim how did you find all that correpondence?<BR> <BR> <BR>H talked with Steve one time,but he is refusing more counseling at this time. H's emotional needs are hard to meet. He wants a friend,but he is angry.(Friend is H's number one emtional need). I offered to go to one of his favorite recreations and he said" You never wanted to go before, you told me to go by myself".<BR>I dont remember saying that,If I did I made a big mistake. Another one of his needs is attractiveness of spouse.I have alot of weight to lose, but I have been walking everyday. Steve said H may try to sabotage my efforts to meet his emotional needs.Please pray for me to have a strong plan A. My prayers to all FS's. <BR> beth

bethn,<P>There are several ways to do it, but I need more info. The one I'm most familiar with is netscape. Email me at bassibh@yahoo.com and I'll try to help you. I don't want to post it here as I don't want to give lurking WS's a clue how to do it.<P>Brent

Brent,<BR> I tried to E mail you. Let me know if you did'nt recieve it. Thanks,Beth<BR>,

Beth,<BR>Get a keylogger program and install it...it traps every keystroke so you can get his password....Go to <A HREF="http://www.download.com" TARGET=_blank>www.download.com</A> and search for keylogger...read the directions, get a computer literate (not that you are not) :-) friend to help you. It works really well.

boomer has the best idea...<P>Do e-mail me at imherczeg@yahoo.com ... for the software I used!<P> <P>Jim

Hi Bethn,<P>I snooped and it was the event that broke the logjam for us. BUT the person how told me how also warned me to be prepared for what I might find. I won't tell you not to do this, it worked for me. BUT be very sure you are emotionally prepared.<P>Take care always

Bethn<P>Did you get what you wanted....if not I can help.<P>J W<P>

Thanks to all of you who have responded. Puter froze up for a couple of days, so I was unable to read my post.<BR> I have not found out H's pass word yet ,still working on it.Will keep you updated<BR>Beth.

I sent you a file (slef-extracting) executable...<P>It's big...<P>I sent it under an account I borrowed.<P>e-mail me back it you have problems.<P> <P>Jim