Hello,<BR>My h had an ema in '97. Until I found this website last nite, there was no-one to talk to - my family hates h, if I bring it up to my friends they say "Are you having problems again?" And plus I thought I was the only one "dumb" enough to believe his excuses - he said he was staying with his (male) boss because we live too far away from work. (60 miles) And the "I'm thinking about coming home..." All of it - you guys know it all. I'm doing better now, & he's the now the great guy I married, but there was a time I thought we'd never make it. We did 2 plan A's & a plan B when I didn't even know they were called that. And you all are so sweet and encouraging. It's made me smile all day, knowing I'm not alone. Thanks! <BR>Kallie

Kallie,<P>I am sure glad you found us!!! You definitely are not alone!!! I have found this place to be a great place to come to for support! <P>I am glad to hear you are doing so well! Hopefully I will be able to say that about my marriage in a year or so!<P>Take care!<P>Woozy

Welcome <B>Kallie6</B>...<P>The sad fact is you and we will never be alone... <P>But we are so glad to welcome you!<P>I have a post of general welcome I wish to share with you... <P>It has a lot of quick links to many of the <B>most</B> important MB sites...<BR>Click here ==> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000002.html" TARGET=_blank>General Welcome for All New Builders(Newbies)</A><P>A while ago... the "main" forum was divided into 4 separate "sub" forums... and a new one added...<BR><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/cgiwrap/marriage/forumdisplay.cgi?action=topics&forum=Just+found+out...&number=29&DaysPrune=10&LastLogin=" TARGET=_blank>Just found out...</A>...for those new the forum... pre/post "discovery" of an affair or possible affair.<BR><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/cgiwrap/marriage/forumdisplay.cgi?action=topics&forum=Plan+A/Plan+B&number=30&DaysPrune=10&LastLogin=" TARGET=_blank>Plan A/Plan B</A>...usually after "discovery of the affair"...for those with questions of "what to do now?"<BR><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/cgiwrap/marriage/forumdisplay.cgi?action=topics&forum=In+recovery&number=31&DaysPrune=10&LastLogin=" TARGET=_blank>In recovery</A>...when a commitment to work on marriage by both spouses has begun.<BR><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/cgiwrap/marriage/forumdisplay.cgi?action=topics&number=34&SUBMIT=Go" TARGET=_blank>Divorcing/Divorced</A>...when efforts at reconciliation fail or are failing.<BR>We are being asked to post the forums that make the most sense with respect to our questions/vents and not just dump everything into the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/cgiwrap/marriage/forumdisplay.cgi?action=topics&forum=General+Questions&number=28&DaysPrune=10&LastLogin=" TARGET=_blank>General Questions</A> forum because it will give you the most responses! <P>Jim

Kallie<P>Your name caught my eye and I just needed to respond. My D's name is the same spelled the same way. She 17 and her M has betrayed me and hurt D in the process. I'm fairly new to the site...maybe 3 weeks or so now and I find so much compassion and understanding from all of the people her it is truly amazing. <P>Everyone is full of encouragement and go out of their way to help in all situations. Welcome and please post often so you can vent, feel better, learn, and heal little bit.<P>You are by no means alone.<P>J W<BR>

Hi Kallie,<P> You deserve kudos for doing the Plan A, Plan B on your own and preserving your marriage. If I wouldn't have found this site I really believe I would've been divorced now (especially after listening to well meaning friends and family)......welcome and I hope you share some of your experiences....LU

Thanks everyone. You've been very helpful Kallie