Hello all...<P>Well, tonight was a very pivotal turn of events between my wife and I since all of this has been going on. I went to our home to get the last of the things that we agreed on letting me take before we go ahead and sign the legal agreement which will absolve me of all of our debt so that I can get on with my life. We talked on the phone a couple of times throughout the afternoon to set up a time for me to show up there and get my things. They were very civil conversations and we discussed things that will happen in our future. I asked her about her intentions with her new boyfriend and whether or not he would be moving in once all of this was settled. She was very adament about him NOT doing so because he will be working in another city. I felt kind of good knowing that he won't be there all of the time. It almost seemed that her voice may have been carrying less of a tone of "smirkiness" and perhaps maybe a little bit of regrettfulness. Whether or not this is true remains to be seen but I am not going to dwell on it.<P>But there is one thing that is bothering me. I can't get over the guilt of having gone into the home we had obtained together and removing so many of the things we shared. It just doesn't feel right. But in a way I feel I have been very fair. I could have made all of this real messy and dragged her to court trying to get half of our equity and so forth but instead I will agree to let her resume the mortgage on the house in return for letting me take the things I need to start a new life. So why does this feel so wrong? I hate talking about all of this material bull when deep down inside it is a pale cover up for the pain I am feeling over losing someone who meant so much to me. As I was just finishing packing and getting ready to leave, she shows up with her new boyfriend. Uncomfortable? You bet! She asked if I had everything and I said I didn't but I would call her and see if we could arrange for me to get a few more things later on. As she was asking me if she wanted for them to leave so I could finish I looked at the new man and asked him "Whats up?". I think they were both a little shocked. On the way out the door, I kissed my dog good bye, and looked at them both and said "Cya later"<P>Sorry to have to put out my entire nights events to you all here but I needed to tell someone who is or has been in my situation before exactly how I feel about all of this. It hurts alot but I am trying to get through it. I know coming here will help and look forward to talking to you all again soon.<P>Take care and my best....<P>William

{{{{{{{{{{HurtinButHere}}}}}}}}},<P>William....<P>I sense your pain...<BR>It's real...<BR>It's deep...<P>You know you're not alone here...<P>Do speak what's on you're mind...<BR>Vent... and don't hold it in...<P>Steve (Harley) had a post about creating a "vent" forum...<BR>...until that is done... and even if he has one later... vent here and now!<P>You're obviously heading through the tail end of a divorce...<P>...try out the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/cgiwrap/marriage/forumdisplay.cgi?action=topics&number=34&SUBMIT=Go" TARGET=_blank>Divorcing/Divorced</A> forum for those you know your pain more closely!<P> <P>Jim

William,<P>I have been on this rollercoaster ride since Feb 6. <P>I have been doing so much reading, here, the DivorceBuster page, and many many books. I am getting to be stronger and that feels so good. But the hurt is still there. <P>Like Jim said, I think its time that I head to the Divorced/Divorcing part of this. There is just too much.<P>I have a question for you, what kind of legal agreement did you sign to "absolve you of all your debt?" I need something like that and probably pretty darn fast.<P>H has maxed out all credit cards, we have a 2nd on the house (my house, he moved in here with me)the debt is unbelievable. He has ruined so much and I need to start thinking about this junk. <P>Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I'm sure it was really difficult going in there and getting stuff. Everything in this house belongs to me from the beginning so... He did take a dresser and a T.V.. He wants to take the entertainment center, and big screen, which we did buy while he was here. I'm getting kinda at the too bad stage. <P>I don't know, I just know that I don't want to get ruined financially. I've always had great credit, want to keep it that way. <P>Hang in there ok!! If you have any advice for me please, let me know.<P>Tracy