I spoke with my stbx best friend today and she told me that stbx told her that om's wife was in denial big time.<P>I feel like calling her tonite and leting her know that her h and my stbx are back together. I don't know what it will solve ? But I can't get it out of my mind. <P>Is it just being vindictave?<P>Part of the problem is that my FIL is her and he doesn't even act like anything is going on. My daughter was talking about their church and asked if I had ever been in it ? My FIL said " That where he got married to your mother " How insensitive he can be, He's said a couple thing about her and me and they only been here a few hours. I think he getting senile!!<P>I still would like to call om's w and set her straight. I just imagine it would bring my stbx's fury down on me and I don't need that, althought the adreneline rush might feel good because I feel like crap tonite.<P><BR>Just this week I told SHA not to contact om's w and now I want to do it.<P>I think it would make me feel better for the short term, but long tern I don't know. Plus I don't know how stable she is.<P>I am open for suggestions !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

What is it going to help??? Might you feel better but if she is in denial then you are only going to make her feel worse (OM'sW). You know how that hurt feels what would you want to put that on someone else. <BR> ILs are they great. My mil does things like that all the time. I don't think it is on purpose (with her who knows) He is probably just in denial also. <P>Hang in there You know you would accomplish nothing but a short term satisfying feeling then you would worry about the pain the OM'sW is going through.<P>Prayers to help you through this and the party.<P>------------------<BR>di<P>