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Should someone who has been involved in an affair (physical and emotional) be accountable to the betrayed? My H travels and hides hotel bills and calling card bills. Sometimes will not tell me where he is going--just directions or states.(most of the time he does tell me) Also,he has had to get an aol account for work(??) and has not given me user name, much less password----has had internet affair in past.<BR>I would like to try Plan A, but feel honesty and accountability is crucial. My husband says that I don't offer an environment for him to be truthful--he is afraid of me and what I would do if he told me the truth. (I guess he means throw him out).<BR>Please tell me your thoughts on how I need to proceed if I decide to try Plan A for awhile. Thanks
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Honesty about the past, present and future is the "Golden Rule" for building a successful relationship. Harley is quite explicit about this and is part of the Joint Agreement. Almost universally all authors on affair recovery affirm that honesty and communication are essential. Lacking these as a basis all other efforts will come to Naught.<P>You might find the thread on Honesty and Forgiveness of interest.
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GodAlone<P>I agree with LooksGood but if the A is still going on honesty and accountability I would not think would be expected after all the A is based on lies and deceit which according to MB is the basis for which most A die.<P>J W
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