When my H came to take our daughter out tonight, he was even more irritable than usual - he gave me some health insurance info I had requested that I can't possibly imagine him thinking was unreasonable for me to ask for - but he acted angry. He wants a divorce ASAP, but he hasn't yet filled out the financial paperwork that the courts require before a hearing can be requested. I think he is hiding some income, but I don't see the point, since I will find out about it sooner or later, unless he hides it from the court which I can't imagine even the alien-clone version doing.<P>I am having trouble remembering what I liked about him. All I can remember now is how he has been constantly angry with me as long as I can remember - but it couldn't really always have been that way; otherwise I wouldn't even have gone on a second date. Plan B wouldn't help - I only talk to him about 3 minutes a week, and usually only about logistics. <P>I HATE feeling like I can never talk to him about the kids, because I am on the hook for them being perfect and if they are not he will use it against me somehow.

I can remember what I liked and Loved about my H but it doesn't matter now. I too, have witnessed an very angry person. Just who are they angry with? What did I do? He is the one that had another W. But he is angry all the time, period. I don't even waste my time talking to him anymore. Anything important he can get to me through attorneys or a msg with the girls. But he seems to use the girls for more than just simple msgs, so it looks like that will have to stop too. I have witnessed and heard so much verbal abuse that I had to cut all communication with him. Although I miss hearing his voice, it has been better in the long run. I had to see him in court Monday and that was the first time I have really seen him since May. He didn't even look good to me anymore. I say, you go STUD, find the next "lucky" woman. He screwed up with me after 15 years, I'm sure it won't take long to screw up with the next. Sometimes I just smile. It helps me get through the day. Good luck.........

Nellie 1,<P>You are not alone. I hate dealing with my ex-H about the kids or anything else. Of course, he tries to avoid me if possible. Since he sees the kids so little now, their relationship with him has really gone down the drain. Guess who's fault that is? He asked my 8 yr old about a program at school the other night and then accused him of lying when he didn't know the answer. I feel that he is starting to resent the kids because they don't feel comfortable with him anymore. He acts like they have done something to him instead of remembering that he walked out on them! I really think this is all typical, but I'm afraid he will never wake up.<P>AD