Lora ,<BR>I would love to join you in redial Plan A.<P>Thank you for your post to me the other day(about not worrying about when my H would leave me).<P>I read it at work tonight for encouragement. Thank you.<P>Back to plan A. My H does not communicate with me either. I have to ask him,How was work, did you get anything to eat at work, were you short handed?<P>Below is a statement NSR posted to you.<P>"...I know you need me to stop asking questions and I will keep<BR> trying to do that."...<BR> this 20"?"s you must stop completely!<P>Now you know we are in remedial plan A,what does NSR mean specifically by 20 Questions?<BR>Does that mean all Questions to H,like how was your day?bethn

Beth,<P>My H specifically said that he HATED me playing 20 Questions. He said it once to me and once in a note I snooped and found that he never gave me. I felt I was asking those same kind of questions, to get a little info about how his day was, but he saw them as a huge lovebuster. I do admitt that on the days I susspect he was out with OW those ? probably took on a different tone. I also think he is feeling guilty and doesn't want to have to lie and defend himself. Of course I have no proof so I am maybe just a suspicious ***** who is driving my H away all by myself. I also realize that he is so sileint that I use the ? to try and get him to talk and it only suceedes in getting him more angry and one word answers. So I need to stop. It's hard, but sometimes he will talk and tell me little peices of what he did if I don't ask the ?. <P> I think if you don't feel it annoys your H and if you are asking about his day and it gets him to share with you it is OK, but be careful. Maybe he feels defensive about it too.<P> I will be around today if you have any other questions, then may be gone for a week, see my post above. I'm not sure if I can post from my Aunts. But would love to talk to you more later<BR>Lora