Sent my kids to visit dad, which is fine....I want them to see their dad. I asked him to have my oldest call me at night so I could say good night and that I wanted a phone number where I could reach him if i needed in an emergency.<P>Well he called me tonight after I had called him and left a message and said that he didnt want me to call them that they would only be gone for a couple of days and I would be fine and that I had his cell phone number and that was enough. I asked where they were staying (ie hotel, with him etc) and all he would say was my place. I dont know where he lives. He has a po box for his mail and he was staying at a guy friends and now I am sure he is living with the ow. Dont I have the right to know where my kids are staying? I kept asking where they were staying and all he would say was my place. I am going to call my lawyer in the morning.....I don't know what to do.<P>Amanda<P>------------------<BR>I will love my husband "Always & Forever" <P>thevancefamily@hotmail.com

You have absolutely every right to know the address where your children are staying. “My place” is not good enough.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>

avance<BR>Chris is absolutely right!<BR>I can't imagine how hard this is for you.<BR>When H was having his affair I told him I didn't even want him speaking to the bimbo about my children. I didn't want their names to cross her lips.<BR>Speak to your lawyer ASAP

Hi,<BR>You need to know where your children are. At one point I wanted to know the phone number and name of OW and my H would not tell me. I asked my lawyer if I could find out and he said if there are minor children involved then you can and should. I do not have minor children so he could not help me. I had to demand that I have a phone number if I needed to reach him in an emergency. My H did not want even his relatives to know what he was/is up to. I think if your H does not volunteer the number to you that maybe you should ask a lawyer what the law states in your state.

HI Amanda,<BR> I wouldn't get my Lawyer involved. It will just make you seem angry and will be considered a LB by your H.<BR> Try this, in a nice voice ask again and assure him that you don't want to know to start trouble or pry. Tell H that you PROMISE not to use it unless there is an emergency and won't give it to ANYONE else.<BR> Tell him you just think you should have it in case there is a REAL emergency that HE needs to know about. This will make more sence to him than a Lawyer MAKING him give it to you. <BR> If you have his cell phone number then he's right and he's just seeing right through your "need to know" what he's up to and where he lives etc..<BR> As much as you want to know (Believe me I understand) it really doesn't matter. The information may just hurt you and make you weaker. You need to be strong to get him home!! And WHEN and IF you find out he IS living with OW, you KNOW you will find it hard NOT to Love Bust!! Don't rush this info.<BR> That's my opinion. GOOD LUCK AND PRAYERS FRANK

Amanda...<P>You have every right to know where your children are...<BR>...and to allow them to contact you!<P>In my state... it is spelled out as normal visitation guidelines...<BR>...one of the few laws my state has that makes any sense!<P> <P>Jim

He would be outraged if he didn't know where his children were and couldn't contact his children in case of emergency. You have every right to the same consideration.<P>Approach him again, calmly and logically. If you do not get cooperation then I would probably go further. I'm pretty lenient, but this crosses the line.<P>Lori

Ask your H again, where your children are staying (address & phone #). Explain to him the importance of it.<P>If he still refuses, warn him that if he doesn't give you the info, then you will go to your lawyer.<P>Minor children are involved. You are the custodial parent, right? You have every right to know where your children are.

thanks for the advice.....<P>I have asked him on several occasions for another number and he wont give me ne...I have asked nice and i have yelled and screamed. It dosent seem to help. I feel at ths point my only choice is to contact the lawyer. he is not being fair, i dont want to call the ow....i dont want to talk to her or hear her voice for that matter.<P>I am sure he would not believe me but i dont care.<P>i will let you know what the lawyer says...<P>thanks <P>amanda

You are 100% correct and must know how to reach your children. Cell phone is not an option since there are "dead cell" areas and what if he is in one of them and can't be reached. That is one of my stipulations in our D. if I don't have an address and phone number. My son is not going with his father.<BR>No way. I don't care what ow says or who he thinks I might give his number to. I need it for my son and my own piece of mind.<BR>Talk to your attorney, he knows the law and can help you with this. He may not be able to get it for you (mine hasn't) but neither will he get to take my son with him UNLESS I know how to reach him.<BR>Stand firm on this. For your children. Not for H's little secretive games!

well I talked to my lawyer and he said I was not to let my kids leave again unless I had a address and a phone number not just a cell phone number. he is sending a letter to my h lawyer....we will see what happens......I dont want him to yell and scream at me but I do want to know where my kids are.<P>amanda<P>------------------<BR>I will love my husband "Always & Forever" <P>thevancefamily@hotmail.com