D-day was December 19, 1998. Affair didn't REALLY stop until July 1999. Back together about September 1999. <BR>Yes Peppermint it does get easier, less painful, better. But not until the affair is really over. And even then it doesn't seem to be getting better until you can look back and remember how bad it was a month ago or 6 months ago. It is a very slow process.

H left ON XMAS DAY. So the date will remain with me forever. Discovery was on January 3. He moved in with her Jan 2. He filed for divorce and I was served on Valentines Day. We are currently in court now. Its been torture since the day he left, and its even worse now.

December 15 - a day that has far more meaning for then I ever wished it would. <P>I hold out hope that it will get better - but still suffering from Post Traumatic Syndrome from the shock.

Hi.<P> 9 months since Discovery.<P>Arrow<BR>

A little over 9 months for me. D-day was July 10 ,1999. Another date that will be indelibly etched into my mind.<P>H moved out on December 01, 1999 to be closer to OW.<P>He started giving me indications in January that he wanted to reconcile, & that he was in the "process" of distancing himself from OW. He told me this week that he plans on moving home the first week of next month.<P>I do have some trepidations as to what I might be "in for" during the recovery phase.

Discovery day was December 26, 1999 - almost four months now. He ended his online EA (which had been going on for 6+ months) and chose to stay (although he wanted to leave at first), but it doesn't feel like his heart is in it right now. We've experienced lots of ups and downs, going thru a down period at the moment. I re-analyzed his needs, my needs over the weekend (mostly his needs) and working on that.

In May it will be a year, H moved out 8 months ago. I don't know if it gets easier or if you just become numb to all the pain. <P>------------------<BR>You can't live with them, you can't kill them!<BR>Viki

I realized that an EA was going on oct. 98... he left, (with out us ever confronting things) nov, (thanks giving morn!) 98.. he admited, he wanted to persue, "perdue" (OW) march 99.. (never finding this web site until after all this went on) I was already into and have continued plan b ever since... to this day, he is nothing but cruel and inhuman to me, when I did nothing to deserve this kind of treatment.. (we have one child, daughter 12 yrs old) who has now seen no communication between us, after asking him quite a few times, and he said, in a note, QUOTE: "I might just co-operate after you sign the f____! papers!"<P>I know "perdue" is still in the picture, but is also still married.. so there sneaking around still continues, on her part.. <P>the alternative he chose, is now to live a decietful life with a decietful woman, in there decieful world!! <P>THEY! DO DESERVE EACH OTHER!<P>