Dear betrayed spouses everywhere,<BR>My H and I are separated now -- we're in Plan B after I tried Plan A for 2 months and he continued to become less and less responsive to me meeting his emotional/physical needs.<BR>He's on his own in another state now, but OW will be joining where he works in a month.<BR>He says he still loves me, but doesn't want to give up "the best relationship he's had" with OW. We have one child (young).<BR>This whole experience is trying my patience BIG TIME! Each day feels like a year and sometimes I don't know if we'll ever reunite, yet have seen many flickers of hope that we will. Please pray that Satan's plans are blocked, that my H and OW will become so overwhelmed with guilt/disgust about what they've done that they'll be repulsed by each other. I know I've made many mistakes in our marriage and want to go through counseling, move, change our lives completely in order to make our marriage new and whole. I pray God will soften his heart enough to hear and feel that message, too. Any ideas on how to pass the time?!!<BR>faithfulone

I can feel your pain. I too don't know how to pass the time. I have only been on Plan A for about a week, seems like years. Today was a low day for me I just don't know if its worth all the time and energy any more. Then I look at my 2 kids (8 and 15months) and just have to somehow hang in there. I have cried my heart out to God many a time. It seems to help some. I too wish that something would break up my H's so called happy life with the OW. I pray every night that God will get a hold of his heart and that he will see this thing for what it is. He has been living with OW now for over a month. He has been having the AF for almost 1 year now. I found out the end of June last year. It seems like years ago. I try to keep myself busy with my children and church friends. It is not easy waiting. I have not been a patient kind of person. We all seem to live in a hurry up world. This is no exception. I want this over with now. I guess God is trying to teach me patience and I'm not liking it at all.<P>One great thing that has helped me is this web site. I think I would have lost my mind without it. I don't post very often but come and read alot and get help that way. It's great to know that you are not alone in all of this.

Sorry you are in such a rough spot...<P>No advice here, but wondered if you'd seen this post (which gives you links to other helpful posts, including a good one on Paln B)...<BR> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000013.html" TARGET=_blank>www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000013.html</A> <BR>Hang in there--<P>Kathi