Packrat,<BR> I case you missed this on the other post:<P>Three things:<BR>1) You keep saying you're not sorry. Actually, you ARE sorry, VERY sorry. <P><BR>2) I hope I am NEVER you're equal. <P><BR>3) Looks like your H hit the lottery (or should feel like he did). <P>I'm sorry for whatEVER it was the world did to you, I will pray for you. FRANK<P><P>------------------<BR>desperate<BR>"If yesterday didn't stop today, Why should TODAY stop tomorrow??" <BR>"Wisdom is why!!"<P>

PackRAt,<P>I hate to see this kind of stuff going on here at MARRIAGE BUILDERS. That is what it is here. To build our marriages back up from the ashes from which a devestating fire has caused(us the betrayers).<P>You cannot come here and shoot down these betrayed. They are so damned hurt by the carelessness of people who didn't care to talk to their spouses about the problems they were having. They found someone else to "cure" their lonlieness, unhappiness, and unsatisfied situations. Which ofcourse we have found that the OP didn't help us at all. All the OP helped do was destroy a very sacred covenant betweeen God, Man, and Wife. Period. There was no help there.<P>As the betrayed, I can see you are very prideful. The Op made you feel very good didn't he? You feel GOOD about your relationship huh? Give it some time. ALL affairs burn out in about 6 months or less. Where are you going to be when it does end? Without a husband most likely.Alone. untrustworthy, non respected, and adultress in everyone's eyes. And remember this, what goes around comes around. Remember the unfeeling attitude you have and hope someone doesn't do this to you.<P>An affair is DEATH to marriage. as you know it. Think of the death of someone very close to you. Someone you loved very deeply and it was suddenly.would that make you sad? Hurt? alone? would you want to know why? That is what has happened to your husband. He has lost his wife, best friend, lover, pal, ect. Gone. become someone he doesn't even know. Because in a sense you have "died". or the person you used to be did.<P>I hope someday you live. And live with the knowlede that what you have done is wrong and very hurtful. I hope someday you can say you are sorry and mean it. I hope for you to find happiness. <P>I also hope that you don't come here to bash. it is definelty a place to vent but not attack. Not these people. They love their spouses DESPITE what we have done. Love endures all. If you do not have love you have nothing.<P>Mercy