Well, I've moved out. Didn't have much choice in the matter. I could have stayed and started a "war" but thought it best for the kids sake to keep things as peaceful as possible. I'm sorry to have gone against all the advice from this forum. But considering my wife's temperment, I think it is better than the "war" scenario.<P>Now, I'm bored and lonely. I'm trying to find my place as a separated man in society. I don't fit in with my married friends and I really don't want to hang out with single people. (we all know the dangers in that and I am really vulnerable in that area right now). This forum is nice but it's no substitute for real fact-to-face human contact. I'm going to be looking at joining some clubs that have interesting activities or something. I don't know.<P>Some of you are separated. Where have you found your place?

Its really odd but I find myself doing all the things that I wanted to do with her but she had no interest. She kind of alienated me from my old friends so I go and see them now. I do a lot of reading at chapters, go to the driving range, go to the gym (who knows.. maybe I'll be dating again-better get in shape!, maybe I won't, I want to look my best for my wife).<P>I have also done alot of thinking about myself and I really like the kind of person I have become. I know that when this is all over, no matter the outcome, that I will know more about myself and be able to hold my head-up high.<P>It really hurts to dwell on the fact that I have so much time on my hands while my wife is going out and doing things in her PA that I should be doing, but based on the excellent advice from this site and my counselor, I have 1 more month until the affair is over and we can start working on rebuilding! I am the eternal optimist.<p>[This message has been edited by Goober (edited May 01, 2000).]