My husband and I have been married for 20 years. Seven years ago he had an affair with an employee. Since this I have not been able to trust him. Lately I have the feeling that something is going on again. This time my suspicions are that he is hiring prostitutes while out of town for work. I do not have any proof of this but some of the same little things are happening now and don’t know if I am just unnecessarily driving myself nuts. Does anyone have any advice???

My H goes on trips a lot. He has to do expense reports. I track all his expenses, I cross reference atm charges, credit card bills and business expense reports. Prostitues cost money, if you follow the paper trail, you can nail those expenses. I also ask the credit card companies for the type of business he visits. They can tell you if it is a bar, a restaurant, etc. I get an idea for the cost of living and make assumptions about how many people consumed that amount of money. All of this after he had an affair and I cannot trust him because he lied so many times. You went through it before, please follow the paper trail and also make sure he follows the honesty rules. If he doesn't, something is going on, even if is not a full blown sexual affair. You need your peace of mind, make him be completely honest with you without any LB. Just make him talk about everything that went on those trips and then check it out with the paper trail. Good Luck!

I was checking one of his many email accounts and find that he has registerd for an online dating service. I am afraid.