Dead Inside<BR>Well my H got laid off of his job where the ever efficient secretary is employed. So I guess he should have no reason to ever contact her again. He turned in his co. cell phone and pager so if I see her number again I'll go ballistic on him. Other than that, everything else is cool. He is trying his heart out and I am too. I just had to voice that nasty little comment about **Charlotte** here because I sure don't want to mention her name to him. He is really adament about nothing ever happening with them. You know I think I probably put a kink in the beginning of an EA b/w my H and the secretary. Maybe that is why he got so pissed and left. As you know there was a lot more to it than that. Anyway, sorry I can't take you up on your offer for investigative services. I will let you know if I need your services in the future. LOL I feel good about things right now. My instincts tell me that he is really serious about working on our marriage now. You and I may have more in common than I'll ever know. I may never know the complete truth like you found out but I guess there's not much reason to beat my head against that brick wall. <P>Hey, we really do need to get together. I'd like to meet you. We both need support. Let me know if you can think of a way to share info. so we can meet somewhere.<P> Notsure2k - Go with your instinct on your husband. I would do a little investigating myself in your situation. It sounds a lot like mine and like I said. I think my interference stopped my H before he really got into a EA with his secy. Anyway, he saw the light when I let him go and he moved out. Ours worked out. I hope yours does too. You have to be really careful about accusations though without having some kind of proof. Look for something that can not be explained away like 6969 pages. If he keeps going out by himself I would follow him and spy on him. You have the right to know. He sounds as though he's cheating or else he's really thinking about it. That's just my opinion. Another thing, do not let him intimidate you. My H was bad about that and always put me on the defensive. I hated that. Be strong.<P>You know, I think my H played around quite a bit before our separation. I don't know about the sexual aspect but I know he had several women friends. I think he knows now what he was risking and since he lost it once I don't think he will risk losing it again. I hope the best for you and your H. Just don't be fooled by his vague explanations. <P>Want to hear something crazy. When we split up I didn't think I needed to renew my birth control pills. Well, I really wasn't expecting him home so soon. One week after he came home he surprised me one Friday night. I didn't think of it at the time but the next day I realized that that day was the beginning of my ovulation cycle SO I may be having a little brother or sister for Cade. Just a wild thought. But I do get pregnant really easy. Waiting to see next month. I'll keep you posted.<P>God be with you both! I will pray for you. Please pray for me too. <P>Cindy