Well, here I'am... H has been out of town now for two days..... he calls at least once and tells me he'll call later..which he never does.... in the past, he would call back. <P>I wonder if he thinks he is coming home, to our home on Thursday...He still says "we" to me when talking of car repairs and new pillows for our bed he stated "our bed"... he still is in contact(telephone) with OW who lives abroad.. 2-3 times per week...stated he plans to see her this summer... We had a major blow out this weekend... all my Plan A down the toilet... I asked him to leave,, he stated that he would want to stay here while we worked things out (divorce)... I'm crushed and heart broken... I DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO and need sound advice...<P>I guess I just keep asking myself ...WHY...WHY...WHY... is this happening...<P>Should I let him home on Thursday... should I ask him to return... what in the world should I do ?? <P>I pray to God several times a day... asking him to guide me... to end this relationsssship with ths OW... to bring a huge headge inbetween them.. to destroy their relationship and their sexual desires that they have for one another.. I also pray to the Lord on how to be a good wife... to guide me, teach me and change me... I know all of this is on Gods time... But of course I ask for him to spped things up... so taht too much damage isn't done to this marriage...<P>Just need to vent and ask for advice..... thanks..........s<P>

I agree with your prayers.<P>Let him come back home on Thursday. Fill up his lovebank. The addiction is strong, it keeps him confused. Pray against the confusion.

I'm standing in agreement with you and TnT, hey 3 agreeing is powerful, and I'm sure others will be chiming in too.<P>If he wants to come home let him. It is harder to put anything in the lovebank whebn you're apart, not impossible, but harder.<P>------------------<BR>Just call me - Deb<BR>------------------------<BR>The only day I can do anything about is today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not yet mine.<P>Hepatitis C, educate yourself ! <A HREF="http://hepatitis-central.com/" TARGET=_blank>http://hepatitis-central.com/</A>

scoick,<P>You're feeling desparate...<BR>...actions at desparate times need to be slowed down.<P>In your last major post <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum28/HTML/002786.html" TARGET=_blank>my update</A> I advised <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B</A>...<BR>...to avoid future <B>serious</B> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3400_lovebust.html" TARGET=_blank>Love Busting</A>.<P>It is too short notice...<BR>...but if you can hold back a few days until you can get an some <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7200_phone.html" TARGET=_blank>telephone counseling sessions</A> ($85US a pop... but well worth it) with <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7010_about.html" TARGET=_blank>Steven W. Harley</A> or Jennifer Harley. Check out the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7000_counsel.html" TARGET=_blank>Counseling Center</A>... and for some specifics... <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7015_fee.html" TARGET=_blank>Fees for Counseling Services</A> and <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7020_sched.html" TARGET=_blank>Scheduling an Appointment</A>! And ask if you are really at the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B</A> stage!<P>...but only you can tell if you're there.<P>Until then... check out my old posts...<A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Archives/Archive-000001/HTML/20000110-1-011323.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A - 101</A> and <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Archives/Archive-000001/HTML/20000110-1-011046.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B - 101</A>.<P>All this MB stuff takes time...<BR>...if you are going to lose it (with your H)...<BR>...move to the next progression quicker. (i.e. <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B</A>)<P> <P>Jim