Anyone know...what is he doing??? H came out tonight to work out with me, his suggestion . Was here for about 3 hours. H told OW he was at the gym . After our work out I asked him if he loves her & he said sometimes. He tells both of us he loves us ( I asked). I told him I know if he breaks it off with either one of us, he will be in alot of pain. I let him know I would help him through the pain if he wanted to come back to me and leave her. I apologized for the times he tried to be honest with me in the past and I would blow up. I let him know I am seeing my wrongs (hopefully my actions will be proof). I asked if he wanted to talk about anything...No...He did say he's managed to complicate the whole situation (by sleeping with & "falling" in love with her I guess). I told him I would be here for him if he wants to talk and he said thanks. He said she is more frustrated than both of us (I doubt it but hope she does major LBing). H said he didnt think he'd marry her if we divorce (I asked). It makes me sad to think he would dump me for someone he would not marry but he could be lying about that too. I think I did ok-he said maybe he could come out again this week to work out. I wont get excited but will stay hopeful. I know God is my strength through this. H's not melting all over me yet though... I will keep praying and hoping. My plan B date will be May 31 unless something changes. The pregnancy is progressing quickly and I cant handle him being with her through the birth. I would die inside completely.<BR>Thanks for listening.<BR>Kris

Kris,<BR>Keep doing what your doing! He's talking to you and you need to let him see your door is open to him. Let her do all the LBing she can. Just continue being there for him. His head will come out of the clouds and he'll see what he's really missing. Something that has definitely been working to my advantage is to keep any discussion with my H regarding his relationship with the OW to almost nothing. Why? One, it hurts me to hear him say he wants to be with her, and two, it puts him in an uncomfortable spot (could be an LB on my part). <P>Your doing the right thing. Remember, BABY STEPS!<P><P>------------------<BR>Molli

SISL,<P>As they say in your neck of the woods... <P>Ya done good!! <P>------------------<BR>But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.<BR>Galatians 5:22-23

You're doing great! Becoming friends again is a great place to start. I'm so happy to see that he is trusting you to talk to, that's a good sign.<P>------------------<BR>You can't live with them, you can't kill them!<BR>Viki

Molli,<BR>Thanks for the encouragement..I will remember "baby steps" over & over. Also, I do need to keep conversation about OW to a minimum...I know H gets uncomfortable with that. Thanks for the reminder!! <P>2s4w and Vicki,<BR>Thanks for the encouraging words...I need to hear them. <P>We did have lunch today...it was ok but we laughed when I dropped him off. I asked him for a date...w/o baby...sometime in the year 2000 <P>Kris