Hi all,<BR>I haven't posted here in a very long time. My H and I are doing great most of the time. I finally stopped whinning and really assessed what was happening to us. He had become a totally self-serving, self-centered, self-involved human being. To the point that I represented only the reason for his guilt. I stopped crying and realized that I didn't really want to be with this jerk who had taken the place of my best friend and lover. So I told him I was going to be looking out for me. He had withheld sex for 2 years so the first thing I told him was that we would no longer be having any sexual contact with each other. I started becoming my old *****y self! That was about 3 months ago. He forgets on occasion but I never let him treat me badly without calling his attention to it. It has worked for us so far. If it doesn't I don't want the poor substitute he tried to give me.<BR>Is Sheba still posting? I think about her often. Everyone please take care. Bless you.<P>------------------<BR>alleyoop<P>

Hello my dear friend -<P>I am so glad that I took advantage of some spare time and perused around here, otherwise I would have missed you!!!<P>Shoni came back and posted as well...<P>I am so happy to hear that you and your H are doing well.....say Hi to him for me will ya!! <P>How's the kids, grandkids and our little Caitie doing? All is well, I hope.....<P>I think of you all the time also, Karen.<P>My life is still as whacky as ever since this nightmare began....H comes out with the darndest things!!! I really should do an update. I am still not divorced yet.....it's not being held up by either one of us, just the natural progression of things so far.<P>I am concentrating on a better income for myself and have kept busy nursing my baby (the dog!!) who has a couple of leg problems. <P>So good to hear from you and please keep popping in every now and then. I will probably do that update soon so look for it if you're around. It's always good for entertainment if nothing else!! LOL!!<P>BIG HUGS,<P>Sheba

Hi Sheba, <BR>So glad to see you are still okay. Being in love is like a desease sometimes isn't it?! I really do love my H but I wasn't doing either of us any favors. He seems to be sorry for what he did and doesn't hide from it now. I would love to see your update. I have to tell you that if I hadn't had you to talk to I might not have survived. It feels so hopeless at times.<BR>I'll watch for your update.<BR>Love you and God bless,<BR>Karen<P>------------------<BR>alleyoop<P>