He left for her house at about one, i guess, left me some phone messages on the way, got a babysitter for the babies, and now im home from work and have the evening ahead of me. <BR>im so confused i don't even know what to think....<BR>he says he's breaking up with her, but he wants to separate from me, too.<BR>please, anybody, say anything, just to keep me busy, i really need some support!<BR>thank you all<BR>julie

(((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))<P>I am here julie<P>Sam

what time is it near you? is there a mall open you can go to and shop - that usually makes me feel better when i think H is w/ OW<P>sam

are you still there?<P>Tonight I am in the same boat. My H and are getting a D though, so I guess his life is his own now.<P>But he lied to the kids and me and is in another town with an O/W and not even the O/W he left me for in the first place.<P>He did send me flowers for Mother's Day with his name and the kids name on it. But just thinking about him being with some else is a killer for me.........I am trying to detach, and get my own life......<P>Hang in there, their heads are so far up their A$$'s they don't know who they are anymore and forget morals.....they just seek gratification......<P>I will check back on you later........looks like a long night for me too

Hey Julie. I'm around for a while.<P>The uncertainty gets to me, too. Wife was supposed to pick the kids up for an overnight so she had more time on mother's day. It is now 7:30 and it doesn't look like that is going to happen. Guess she is just having too much fun.<P>What are these people thinking? Do their brains fall down into their gonads?

hi all. 730 here now. im home with the babies (2 and a half and 7 months), and they will be in bed soon...<BR>maybe i should just go to bed too, and not think about it?<BR>wonder if i'll get a big present tomorrow...<BR>sorry if i don't reply to everyone, i just have to keep busy, thanks for the fast support

Im just...tired...<BR>it's almost nine, and he's not home yet. im pretty sure he won't come home, either, but im not sure if i care much. i don't know anything anymore.<BR>im really nervous about going to court on monday...i have to defend myself on misdemeanor assault charges (H has threatened to kill me so many times, i just lost it a couple weeks ago and started whacking him, and he called the cops, and if i had kept my mouth shut, he was going to tell them nothing happened, but the deputy decided to haul me off, so now i have to go to court and tell them i was off my antideps...what i really want to do is tell them it was a jealous rage, but i doubt that would get me any sympathy! oh, by the way, i've NEVER had any trouble like this, never even got detention in school.. NOTHING. a three year affair in a three and a half year marriage was just more than i could handle, and i snapped. boy, do i regret it. talk about a lovebuster!!!)<BR>i think i will just slip off into the land of nod, and praise the lord that the baby is now sleeping through the night, and hope the 2yo doesn't awaken with nightmares...sleep is the only escape...

Julie, may you both lie down and sleep (psalm 3:5) may the Lord bless you and keep you. May your husband, if he is straying, suffer a wretchedness of the soul that makes him weep and yearn for his wife.<P>Take care. <P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Let love be genuine...hold fast to what is good; love one another." Rom 12:9-10

thanks, lor. i spent all morning reminding him of the few good times we had together, i hope some of it stayed fresh in his mind...

Lor could not have said it any better. I pray you can get some rest tonight. Take care of yourself and those babies.<BR>allison

When I had to go to court in February & March this year for my husband's paternity hearing, the OW had slapped me with an Order for Protection claiming I threatened to take the OC from her. It never happened. I never said anything remotely close to that. I sent her a letter telling her what I thought of her and the truth hurt her, I guess, so she retaliated with the OFP.<P>When the her attorney went off talking about my phantom threats, my attorney jump in saying what I said in the letter was nothing more than the statements of a jealous, grief-stricken woman who had just found out that another woman was pregnant with her husband's child. The judge was clearly sympathetic to my situation and anything pertaining to my letter was overruled.<P>The judge may in your case be very sympathetic considering here you are a young mom with two babies and struggling to keep your marriage alive yet your spouse is involved with an OW. I would just speak right up and say why you were so upset. I bet anything you are not the one who will look like a jerk.<P>Stay strong, get some sleep and remember what the Scripture said that Lor sent.<P>Blessings<P>Catnip =^^=<P>

well well, surprise, surprise, he is not home yet (523am). i just called his cell phone and thanked him kindly for the best beginning to the most wonderful mother's day a woman could ask for. <BR>ive been taking a lot of valium so im pretty mellow. what do i have to lose, anyway?<BR>thanks, catnip. i won't worry so much about the court thing then. if H is not lying, he has pretty much gotten me off the hook, and i should have an easy time of it (haha, when the deputy arrested me, i asked, "can i take my breast pump? i can't be away from the baby for more than a few hours..." he told me they would just confiscate it, though :P ).<BR>When H gets home, i'll go out shopping for a new outfit and go by and find the courthouse (my appearance is 830 monday morning, and i have NO idea where it is!)<BR>I think i'll be just fine.

7am now. still no word. im hanging in there.