Well in the footsteps of others before me, my H got "hooked" again. The OP threw the gauntlet down and moved out. Now she is out from under her H's watchful eye and also she told her h she does not want to divorse, and wants him to take the kids 50% of the time and go out etc. <P>This is sooooooooooooooo strange. My H is addicted again and comes here shaking and having chills.<P>He says he is sorry for hurting me but hopes I will understand and forgive him even though he can't really talk about it.<P>I really wishe he would come here. I wish he would admit he is depressed. He is in counseling, but if he is anything like he was in joint counseling, they will not get anywhere.<P>I am still Plan Aing, and will be gone most of the summer with the kids. <P>I know he has to see how disgusting she is..She left her H on mother';s day, she is a control freak.....she has said such bizaar things to her H. Yet is is still pulled to her......<P>I pray for him. I can't control it i know, but I can not let her ruin my life as well. she is ruining his life...he has lost the respect of his family. She doesn't care that she won't be included in his family. She has brought out an evilness in him.<P>Do you suppose these OP's go to a training course??????<P>ANy suggestions here. I guess I just have to let it go. I hate to lose his soul to her but what can I do???

I'm so sorry.<P>You cannot do anything about him...can't control him, or make him see the light.<P>You can take care of you...be a great person for you.<P>I truly hope that one day he will "see clearly".

thanks Kam, I need to keep telling myself that. I get sucked in by him... when I get strong and attempt to take control of my life he sucks me back and says lets go to counseling.<P>It is so sick. <P>I am glad the school year is almost over. I will take off for the summer and refuel!!!