Hi bc.....NAH! You don't want to even lay a finger on that dirty disgusting filthy OW's underwear! YUCK! Shows you how disgusting she really is. Gee wiz....why did she leave her dirty filth there anyway??!! YUCK!<P>I don't think you should even bother confronting your H anymore. What's the point? He's just going to deny it anyway.<P>Do you have any family that you can hang out with this evening....that is, if one of your friends can't go out? I really think that you should be with a friend or family member right now. Maybe it will help ease the pain.

I guess it was her clean flithy laundry. It looked as though they had set up house together. Disgusting. Well H finally got home from work and I didn't say a thing. He is sleeping now because he only has had 2 hours sleep since yesterday. I was going to say something when he came home but I was too angry and decided not to say anything yet.<P>Maybe I should take the laundry basket and all tomorrow to the races and leave it on her car. I guess I am terrible. I want some revenge a little not really nice I know.<P>I did change the lock on the place so they will have to break it off next time they rendezvous. Its still marital property and I didn't break the law.

bc, I'm assuming that you may be moving to Plan B.<P>Is it possible for your H to move to that Lake House?

Hi BC -<P>I am sorry that you had to face the evidence....I know the pain that slams you in the gut from that.<P>Take some time to grieve.<P>How are you feeling today? Did you get some rest?<P>BIG HUGS,<P>Sheba

bc,<P>Honey, I know the pain that you are feeling. I caught my H at the OW's house and it is devastating. <P>Just take time to grieve. Since you now know for sure, it's going to hurt more than before. I caught them almost 5 months ago and I can honestly say that now it does not hurt. I quit trying and wonder now why I ever bothered. But my situation was different than most here. I know this is marriage builders, but some marriages are not worth saving. Mine being one of them. <P>You will heal, bc. Trust me on that. It may take a while but you will.<P>(((((HUGS)))))<BR>Mitzi

I just had to know and something in my gut told me that is where I would find all the proof I needed even though he wouldn't admit it. I did ask him why and didn't he realize I would find out and I did. I asked how he could be so cruel to take her there where he had bought it for me. <P>They definately are living a fantasy. In a way, I think I did see a small bit of hurt in his face and he said he was sorry but what does that account for. He would have to say and do alot more than that to even put a dent in my pain. Like someone said it is like your heart has been ripped out and then H poured salt in the wound.<P>I am now faced with what my next step is. In a way I want to pack all of her disgusting stuff up and send it to her and another part of me just wants to put it outside and let it rot or whatever. It is raining here and suppose to for the next two days. I also felt like calling her but that would only put a feather in her cap and we don't want that.<P>I told my H I wouldn't put up with anymore lies and if he took her to the lake and made a little love shack there were they in my house and bed when I wasn't there. The thought just disgusts me. I think my H thought as long as he kept denying everything and I continued to believe it even though I doubted it that he could continue on. Now that it has all come out so to speak in the laundry(haha have to laugh or I would cry), it may not be so enticing, exhilirating, fun etc. She will only be the low down scum sucking tramp she is. Sorry but had to do it.