Things were better today. She is still super-sensitive though, and it seems every decision concerning what we do sparks criticism. "Fine, don't be with me. I know you just want to be away on your own." It's like she makes a noose to hang me with, dangles it in front me, hopes I'll fall into it. And when I don't, she slips it over my neck. <BR>I tried something new today that I haven't tried before. When reassurance failed, I just letter her continue to pose questions and then answer them on her own. She poses a question like, "is it that you don't want to be with me" and then answers it, "i knew it. that's what it is. you just hate me.". <P>Well, the truth is she's never hit her mark and despite rebuttal or reassurance I rarely can never penetrate through her guard. So today I just clammed up and let my behavior answer her questions. If she's going to draw false conclusions without regard (see last night's post), I won't bother fighting back. I'll just let my behavior drive the situation. Sure enough, today she saw I enjoyed being with her so it worked. No apology for the accusations though, oh well what do I expect since I was the cheater. For now, I'll settle for any form of happiness <BR>

BBD -- You're probably right on about this one. Let your actions speak for you, your words are just that, words. If your actions are true, she cannot draw false assumptions from them.<P>Don't let this go on for too long, though. She does need reassurance both from actions and words. Just let your actions speak for you for now and later, the words will reinforce what you are doing.<P>Good luck, my friend and my thoughts are with you.....