My wife is supposed to come over to get her stuff leter tonight. She has been very hurtfull and angry. <BR> Im thinking about having a nice dinner already cooking when she shows up. I really enjoy cooking and im pretty goo, but I just cant seem to do it for myself. This is an excuse for me to cook somthing great. Should I do it? I just dont know. Maybe I should just leave and let her get her stuff, but im not sure i trust her.

vaforme,<P>Cook to your hearts content ! But not enough to feed an army and make sure it is something that you can store and reheat in case she turns down your invitation to have dinner with you and in case you don't feel like eating for a while afterward.<P>This won't be easy for you, I'm not going to lie to you about it. Been there, done that still have the scars on my heart from it.<P>Don't leave the house , if you have to go in the bathroom 27 times to keep control of yourself during the time then do that. But be there. <P>It will be hard not to beg and plead, but you should avoid doing that if at all possible.<P>I'm praying for you.<P>------------------<BR>Just call me - Deb<BR>------------------------<BR>The only day I can do anything about is today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not yet mine.<P>Hepatitis C, educate yourself ! <A HREF="http://hepatitis-central.com/" TARGET=_blank>http://hepatitis-central.com/</A>

Thank you for the words of advice, but looks like they might not be needed.. She still has not shown up..she was supposed to be here an hour ago. i wonder if she is going to try to take this thing to court. She said all she wanted was her stuff and the dishes, but now maybe she wants more. Hmm..well this gives me some time to go tak to a lawyer I guess. I didnt really want to do that, but i have to protect myself right?

I do not know your story, but I do think you need to be there when she comes for her things. I also think it is ok to ask her not to go; ( if you love her you must tell her );<BR>just do not beg her. I pray that you will feel God`s leadership and love in this time off pain.<BR> GOd bless you, GWM

Good advice from Bozos_Deb and LOST123...<P>Keep expectations low! <P> <P>Jim

At least she let you know in advance. I came home from church recently and the dining room was missing. She has, though the law states otherwise, felt it was okay to take not just her personal items but also items we aquired together. It seems that she has totally lost her moral compass. I can't believe this is the same person who helped serve communion to me.<BR>

Oh, also, that begging thing? It is the most difficult thing NOT to do. I had a couple of her friends tell me not to, after the fact.<P>RRUNRR<BR>

Oh, it's the "no show" syndrom. I experienced this throughout April when my wife would call me and say "I'll come ny tomorrow to discuss certain things with you". She cancelled the day after or didn't show up. This went on for a month until she gave me the bad news (which I had prepared for for a month).<P>It's a GUILT-thing I think.<P>scandinavian

Yeah she hasnt shown up....but I also had the locks changed..(maybe a LB) but i felt like i needed to do it to show her that Im not taking this litley, and to protect myself. She is supposed to maybe come down again today...well will see hunh. <P>She is going to be in shock if she doesnt get her stuff cause pretty soon she wont be able to get it. I might have to leave town for business.

vaforme,<P>Most states prohibit changing locks on your doors to keep your spouse out... (is she on your deed/lease?) Maybe give a quick call to an attorney!<P>You may want to change them back.<P>Check out <B>bc</B>'s post... <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum28/HTML/003059.html" TARGET=_blank>Talked to my lawyer and I am stuck with my H having his cake and eating it too</A>. <P>Try and keep those <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3400_lovebust.html" TARGET=_blank>Love Busters</A> to a minimum. <P> <P>Jim