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#382152 05/25/00 11:45 AM
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I recieved this in an email today and wanted to share it. It is long but worth a read.<P><BR>A story worth passing on:<P>>><P>>>A teacher in New York decided to honor each of her seniors in high<P>>>school by telling them the difference they each made.<P>>><P>>>She called each student to the front of the class, one at a time. First<P>>>she told each of them how they had made a difference to her and the<P>>>class. Then she presented each of them with a blue ribbon imprinted<P>>>with gold letters, which read, "Who I Am Makes a Difference."<P>>><P>>>Afterwards the teacher decided to do a class project to see what kind of<P>>>impact recognition would have on a community. She gave each of the<P>>>students three more ribbons and instructed them to go out and spread<P>>>this acknowledgment ceremony. Then they were to follow up on the<P>>>results, see who honored whom and report back to the class in about a<P>>>week.<P>>><P>>>One of the boys in the class went to a junior executive in a nearby<P>>>company and honored him for helping him with his career planning. He<P>>>gave him a blue ribbon and put it on his shirt. Then he gave him two<P>>>extra ribbons and said, "We're doing a class project on recognition, and<P>>>we'd like you to go out, find somebody to honor, give them a blue<P>>>ribbon, then give them the extra blue ribbon so they can acknowledge a<P>>>third person to keep this acknowledgment ceremony going. Then please<P>>>report back to me and tell me what happened.<P>>><P>>>Later that day the junior executive went in to see his boss, who had<P>>>been noted, by the way, as being kind of a grouchy fellow. He sat his<P>>>boss down and he told him that he deeply admired him for being a<P>>>creative genius. The boss seemed very surprised. The junior executive<P>>>asked him if he would accept the gift of the blue ribbon and would he<P>>>give him permission to put it on him. His surprised boss said, "Well,<P>>>sure." The junior executive took the blue ribbon and placed it right<P>>>on his boss's jacket above his heart. As he gave him the last extra<P>>>ribbon, he said, "Would you do me a favor? Would you take this extra<P>>>ribbon and pass it on by honoring somebody else? The young boy who<P>>>first gave me the ribbons is doing a project in school and we want to<P>>>keep this recognition ceremony going and find out how it affects people<P>>><P>>>That night the boss came home to his 14-year-old son and sat him down.<P>>>He said, "The most incredible thing happened to me today. I was in my<P>>>office and one of the junior executives came in and told me he admired<P>>>me and gave me a blue ribbon for being a creative genius. Imagine. He<P>>>thinks I'm a creative genius. Then he put this blue ribbon that says<P>>>'Who I Am Makes A Difference' on my jacket above my heart. He gave me<P>>>an extra ribbon and asked me to find somebody else to honor. As I was<P>>>driving home tonight, I started thinking about whom I would honor with<P>>>this ribbon and I thought about you. I want to honor you. My days are<P>>>really hectic and when I come home I don't pay alot of attention to you.<P>>>Sometimes I scream at you for not getting good enough grades in school<P>>>and for your bedroom being a mess, but somehow tonight, I just wanted to<P>>>sit here and, well, just let you know that you do make a difference to<P>>>me. Besides your mother, you are the most important person in my life.<P>>>You're a great kid and I love you!"<P>>><P>>>The startled boy started to sob and sob, and he couldn't stop crying.<P>>>His whole body shook. He looked up at his father and said through his<P>>>tears, "I was planning on committing suicide tomorrow, Dad, because I<P>>>didn't think you loved me. Now I know you care. This is the happiest<P>>>day I've known."<P>>><P>>>The boss went back to work a changed man. He was no longer a grouch but<P>>>made sure to let all his employees know that they made a difference.<P>>>The junior executive helped several other young people with career<P>>>planning and never forgot to let them know that they made a difference<P>>>in his life...one being the bosses son.<P>>><P>>>And the young boy and his classmates learned a valuable lesson. Who you<P>>>are DOES make a difference. You are under no obligation to send this on<P>>>to anyone...not to two people or to two hundred. As far as I am<P>>>concerned, you can delete it and move on to the next message. But if<P>>>you have anyone who means a lot to you, I encourage you to send them<P>>>this message and let them know. You never know what kind of difference<P>>>a little encouragement can make to a person. Send it to all of the<P>>>people who mean anything important to you, or send it to the one, two,<P>>>or three people who mean the most. Or just smile and know that someone<P>>>thinks that you are important, or you wouldn't have received this in the<P>>>first place.<P>>><P>>>Remember ..... I give you a blue ribbon.<P>>>Who you are makes a difference, and I wanted you to know that!<P>

#382153 05/27/00 12:07 AM
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FA --<P>Lo and behold... after being off the website for a few days, and wanting to post that I'm going to stay away for awhile. Then, comes your post.<P>Great post. I hope that you';ve found a way to give this to D#1, since I'm sure it would help her (and you) at such a critical time.<P>Remember how we used to talk about finding the humor in things, and keeping your chin up? Well, great work, FA! While not humorous, the deeper meaning and the silver lining was found!<P>--keystone

#382154 05/26/00 04:58 PM
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Hey keystone,<P>Thanks! Yes I did print this out and gave it to my D, thats not to say she will read it right now. She ended the program today and will return to school on Tues. I'm keeping my thoughts for a positive return for her.<P>Still trying to keep my "chin up."<P>falsely accused

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FA --<P>I'm trully stunned that nobody else has chosen to respond. It's a great post, a real eye opener to so many of us that are going through problems, and are parents, too.<P>I'm responding again in hopes that others might see it. <P>Status quo here. No movement in any positive way, and each day I'm even more convinced that she has no desire to make it work. Her birthday is coming up fast. No personal gift to come, just a practical one -- she wants a new barbeque. <P>All the last gifts I've given for Christmas or birthdays have gone virtually untouched or unnoticed. Witness the "spa day" I gave her for her fortieth birthday last year. <P>She didn't even know that I gave it too her when she was going through her gifts after her big "bash". Everyone that's heard about it cannot believe she hasn't used it! Yet, 11.5 months later, she still hasn't used it. Christmas gifts -- same thing. <P>Anyway, all the best...<P>--keystone


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