... last time I posted has been rolling around in my head for weeks. And I think you might be right. I really am not quite done yet. I haven't been able to force myself to do the legal separation thing, even though I have the book and forms ... And he keeps calling me about the car, about my allergies, and other stuff ... a couple of times a week.<P>It is so hard to let go when there is still that connection. I have NOT reverted to Plan A, but have not really gone to Plan anything else yet, either.<P>Recently, an online friend who is divorced due to infidelity learned that the OW has left her exH. She does not want him back, but her announcement of this brings home once again what the statistics say - that most relationships founded in infidelity are not lasting ones.<P>Now I need to figure out what comes next for me!<P>Dunno if my signature is exactly accurate any more ...<P>------------------<BR>terri<BR>I can see clearly now,<BR>the rain is gone ...

Terri,<P>I have been reading your posts for the longest time. I visited your WEB pages. Absolutely fabulous! Sorry about the rolling around in your head thing. I'm a nutball remember? <P>You are NOT ready to give up!!!! I hate to tell you, but, you still love the lunkhead! I have so many books here I could start a library!<P>Yes, it is hard to let go when there are still feelings involved. If I hated her guts, including the large and small intestines, it would be so much easier to walk away. There is more to it than that.<P>I still love my lunkhead as well. Do you really think he wonders about your car, allergies or other things? Yes, he does because he cares for you!! Actions speak louder than words. Val asks if I cleaned out the fish tank. HUH???? She still cares. Maybe only about the fish, but, she still cares.<P>There is only one reason that I would give up on this relationship. One of us would have to be dead. Even then I would probably still try for two years.<P>Bottom line. We/I realised what we did wrong and tried our best to fix it.<P>My conscience is clean because I tried my best.<P>Val has two copies of the final D. The only thing she has do to is sign them. Has she? Will she??<P>Stay tuned same Bat channel, same Bat time. <P>You are a good person, Terri. Life is full of choices. We can only hope to make the "right" ones.<P><P>------------------<BR>"It's not over till we say it's over! Was it over when the Germans bombed Pearl Harbor? H*ll no!" Blutto...Animal House 1984<P>Wishing us all the Best.<P>Medic