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Just what I was afraid would happen. He didn't come home from work and he is at her house. o' god I need help. I don't understand it at all. Help me!!!!<P>------------------<BR>di<P>
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SDS, I'm so sorry. I know how devastated you must feel. <P>Take a deep breath and know that you are special, you are loved...and you are in my prayers....<P>Will check back with you later.
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Do take a deep breath. His leaving isn't about you & him, it is about him being in the midst of an addiction, and not being strong enough to fight it right now.<P>Focus on you right now, you cannot control his behavior, but you can take care of yourself.<P>Hugs--<P>Kathi
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I know this with my head but heart is having a horrible time dealing with it. I am so afraid that he won't be able to come back. That he will be afraid to try.<BR>I thought I hurt the last time but it is so much worse this time.<P>------------------<BR>di<P>
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Dearest di,<P>{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{di}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}...<P>I know you are hurting so much.<P>Know that everyone here is praying for you and they all care for you.<P>You've gone through so much over the last several months... and were lifted so high...<BR>only to be dropped.<P>Recovery isn't a quick process...<BR>...you know that too. ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/frown.gif) <P>His withdrawal, like any other addicts, is going to take time. We all want the healing to come fast... and for some it does... for many it takes a little bit longer.<P>When you're down... talk to someone...<BR>talk to God.<P>I know you're not giving up...<BR>...you've worked so hard.<P>Just know that our caring prayers for you will help... and will always be there.<P> ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif) <P>Jim
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BIG HUGS for you SDS.....<P>How are you now, honey? Hope you are sleeping, you need your strength.<P>Di, you are strong!!! You can do this.<P>He is weak and needs to see you believe in him and then he can start believing in himself.<P>He has to deal with this OW in his own way....all you can do is love him, be strong for him and reaffirm what you want the goal to be.<P>He will falter....or he may simply be trying to tell her how much he wants to be with you. <P>Sometimes our imaginations are far more horrifying than what the reality is.<P>Do not let this weaken you!!!!<P>DEEP BREATHS!!!!<P>BIG HUGS,<P>Sheba<P>Let us know ........
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Hi SDS,<P>Are you OK? Been there too many times to count. Take deep breaths, keep your eye on your goal. This separating can take a very long time - it is not about you.<P>Big hugs,<BR>Starpony
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