Near the end the hope was fading..ah more like I was just impatient here is the update:<P>Things are great! We are clicking very very good. Initially I think we were both on our toes a bit but we have been really good at talking about everything... If it irks us we make sure to talk about it right there. A couple things have come up about before the mess that was bothering her like money etc. which we are dealing with and it's nice.<P>I am enjoying my time with her and appreciate her alot.I still have some bad feelings about some memories but we are reclaiming them slowly. I am glad that OM has given up trying to contact her, that was pissing me off quite a bit. It was almost restraining order time just to avoid it. One thing that she told me was that talking to<BR>OM had the effect of reminding her what a pain OM was.. sounds like he really smothered her and was pretty insecure about it. Anyway nuff of that part.<P>I gave notice to move out of my place, phone is getting disconnected etc. We are selling the Delisle house and getting into an acreage. Nothing too expensive, something<BR>we can spend time fixing together etc. I think I remember a friend saying that the time that they tried to make it work again you knew that you wanted out. After hmm almost 2 months or so I don't get that feeling whatsoever and neither does she. And I am pretty sure we are talking it all out<BR>with nothing hiding..just nothing to gain by that either.<P>I am trying to sell my blue motorcycle, I bought a different one on my VISA and need some cash quick Fun Fun Fun. Who knows,<BR>maybe i'll have them both sold to buy a couple of horses.<P>It's nice to be around the kids all the time, it is work of course but it's worth it. We are having a blast and I am trying to make sure that I spend enough time around them etc giving Tam some time to relax.<P>To sum it up, we are going very very good. We both learned something I think, Garth Brooks says it well "could have missed the pain but I would have missed the dance". We could very well still be in that rut otherwise. (and yes I would still want to hurt OM if I ran into him.. I feel a bit bad that I feel this way but not really)<P>Work is going good, I am trying to see if I can start the business up that I want to run.. ideas ideas etc<P>One thing that i started thinking about just now.. I think that I am plan 'a'ing with out thinking now.. In my life. Strange but it doesn't take much it is sort of like being myself but appreciating everything...most importantly my wife.<P>Take care guys...I haven't really been on as of late!<P>James

James...<P>Good to hear good things from an old timer...<BR>Congratulations!<P> <P>Jim<p>[This message has been edited by NSR (edited May 31, 2000).]

Great update!!! Thanks for sharing <P>Kathi