PM987,<P>I was intrigued that you say your wife is also having an affair w/ OW, your profile doesn't say that. Would you mind sharing your story? It may help a bit.<P>You can read my entire original "tale" at <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/010304.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/010304.html</A> <P>Take care.<P>ThisAlex<P>------------------<BR>If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them because they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart to.

Sure. <P>Suspected affair with co-worker for six months. Wife was pregnant during that time. Symptoms of affair were that she spent every weekend at this woman's house -- with the explanation that she was "helping her with some problems". (I'll say <g> ).<BR>The weekends were not overnight stays - but were often until 1 or 2 am.<P>Well anyhow - I was never able to fully prove that there was something going on.<P>During my deeper suspicions, I began to snoop and overheard a phone conversation which sealed fate.<P>Wife still denies it to this day. It is an obsessive relationship. Wife will not do anything with me for fear of it "upsetting" the other woman.<P>Other woman is also married. At this point, both are lying like crazy to spouses, family and co-workers.<P>Some chinks appear to be forming in the armor. However with a homosexual affair like this I'm deeply dis-inclined to attempt reconciliation at any level.<P>Next step is restraining order and custody issues. <P>Fun! Not exactly the way I thought I'd be celebrating the birth of my child.<P>Paul

Paul,<P>Thanks.<P>Things are a little different here, we talked a lot over the weekend.<P>I don't know how to manage the lesbian part of it; if the affair was with another man I guess I would know better.<P>I am still hopeful that she'll return- unfortunately for the description of her relationship with this OW sounds just like when we first met, with fireworks and all... she's probably right and she really IS a lesbian (not bi)- anyway she went out again today, says she'll sleep here but is so late at night & it's raining outside that I am not sure- she lied about it before.<P>I love her so much that if that is what makes her happy so be it. Although I'll keep fitghting until the end.<P>Thanx for sharing and the best for you and your son.<P>ThisAlex<P>------------------<BR>If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them because they have helped you learn about Trust and Awareness.