Wednesday I stopped by my husband's emergency department with my mini-skirt and tight top on to flaunt my stuff in front of him and OW. Well it worked for a while. She got pissed off and didn't speak to him for a while. (They'd been fighting about all the time he spent with me and the kids even though he'd moved out the 2nd of May).<P>Well, my H decided that he would finally make a decision because she wasn't speaking to him and he said he would take the opportunity to try and get over her. If he could then he'd come home, if he couldn't then he'd know he'd never be able to come home.<P>Everything was going well and he was doing good and then two days later she calls him. He tells her he thought she'd had enough and she told him she would never have enough and she would not give up. The blankety-blank didn't even have the balls to tell her he was doing good without her.<P>Now, he still agrees he has to make a decision but once again she's in the picture and it will make it more difficult. I started to push a little this morning and he went crazy. Said she needed him for her sanity. <P>He had spent yesterday crying on my shoulder about how he didn't want to lose me and his family. He called me at 1am to say he couldn't sleep and just wanted to talk. Then he tells me this morning that he doesn't want to lose either one of us. What a butt!!<P>What do you think. Plan A seems effective, but my spirits are wearing thin because she keeps coming back after they fight and telling him things that make him feel guilty about leaving her alone. She seems to know exactly what to say. He was staying away from her and she's the one that made contact. Do you think, in your opinion or experience, that he'll come back to me or move on with her?

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Hawaiiandream...<P>Plan A...<P><B>Time</B>,<BR><B>Patience</B>,<BR><B>Consistency</B>...<P>...hang in there!<P> <P>Jim

NSR is right. You can expect a lot of indecision on your H's part right now. He obviously is not ready to give up the OW and until he does there is nothing you can do but continue in Plan A. <P>There will be lots of arguments and making up before it's finally over. It's encouraging however that your H is waivering after only a month. Try not to push because that's a major LB. <P>Patience, Patience, Patience. It's so hard.<BR>But it's for the best.<P>Buffy<P><BR>