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Well I have been reading daily MB daily. But life is getting pretty unbearable at this end. Recently took wife to 4 day PAIRS workshop in Dallas hoped it would help, but it didn't dont know what to do now, 18 months and still no different.Unable to get her away from other woman, self esteem here is pretty low after trying for so long and no results. She still does not know what she wants. I know that I need someone who cares. The silence and coldness is unbearable. My health is failing. Is it time, now she wants to go to her parents again for christmas and act as though things are fine. I can no longer pretend and do not want to decieve these wonderful people any longer. Any suggestions?
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Lost,<P>It's probably time for you to establish a plan B approach. Send your wife the Plan B letter. Don't do Christmas with her folks (at least as it's currently planned), and I'd suggest that you use the POJA to see if your wife will explain to them WHY you won't be visiting together. If she refuses, let her know that although you understand her position, you're going to let them know anyway (a lovebuster, but OK if you're doing Plan B).<P>If she's still living with you, of course I'd suggest that you ask her to leave.
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I have tried everything, including asking her to leave numerous times, I just can not get her out of the home. I have even placed a deposit on an apartment for her, but she will not go.
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Lost,<P>If she refuses to go, then you should plan on leaving instead.
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Lost To Lesbian,<P>I am with you & I know about your pain. I don't know if I could stand it that long. My W affair w/ this OW started about 2 months ago and became physical around the beginning of November. I've known for 10 days now- the longest of my life. She told me.<P>Probaly Plan B will work. In any case you need your mental peace back, either sticking with Plan A or moving on.<P>She's a big girl, if she can make decisions about not wanting to be with you she can get a job & pay her rent.<P>Wathever you do, do it with love (not anger).<P>ThisAlex<P>------------------<BR>If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them because they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart to.
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