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I think my wife is having an affair.<P>I made 2 posts under EM, but not getting a lot of feedback.<P>I need help fast. I think she may very well be out with him this very minute. Panic and anxiety attack time and I am physically sick.<P>Thank you to any and all that answer.<P>Ben<BR>
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Write her a note that you're going to a movie. Then go to a movie. If you can't handle what's going on, go to another movie. If you're still falling apart, go to a hotel. <P>DO NOT confront her unless you are capable of being rational. And sane. And all those things you find impossible to be right now.<P>You'll be better off if she has to wonder about you rather than take you for granted. You'll be better off if you can face her without rancor - which you can't do now.<P>GET OUT. CALL HER TOMORROW.<P><BR>
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{{{Ben}}}:<P>I'm sorry you're hurting, but I'm glad you've found us.<P>Here is a link to a thread from a while back where a lot of us listed the things that tipped us off that an affair was going on. <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum28/HTML/000985.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum28/HTML/000985.html</A> <P>May I ask what makes you think that your wife may be having an affair?<P>I hope that you're wrong, but if you are right, please remember that it doesn't have to signal the end of your marriage.<P>Please read about Plan A and Plan B ( <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html</A> )on this site. <P>I'd also like to recommend a couple of books. "Surviving an Affair" by Dr. Harley is an excellent book to read, as is "After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful" by Janis Abrahms Spring. I particularly recommend the first chapter of "After the Affair"--it describes the typical emotions of a spouse who has just found out about an affair and it helped me to realize that I wasn't going crazy.<P>Hang in there, Ben, and let us know how you're doing.<P>All the best. --HBC
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