Hi Again,<P>Thanks for all the ideas on my other thread.<P>Time to be serious.<P>Tomorrow we're putting up the dreaded x-mas tree.<BR>I haven't seen or talked to Robin since Sat. night. I assume she has been with d!@#head. sorry I'll Watch my mouth. <P>She hasn't called once to talk to Abbey. That is out of character for her. I know she gets depressed real bad when she's not with Abbey. <P>That ought to LB (profanity)OB. Sorry bub, you deserve it.<P>Tomorrow R goes to see shrink, he's real good at dragging out of you what you want burried. After that we do the Dreaded tree.<P>This will be my first time using my clandestine plan. <P>I have to remain calm, cool, and collected!<BR>No discussing(profanity)OB<BR>No asking for anything personal ie, info, intentions, affection(thats gonna be hard)...<BR>nothing.<P>My plan is to be happy, joyous and free.Placeing ornamenys on the Dreaded tree as a FAMILY. Nothing but kindness and love deposits. She knows what she,s loosing I don't need to remind her.<P>Be her friend<BR>Be her friend<BR>Be her friend<P>Any sharpe comments will bounce right off me.<P>If she starts talking about missing Abbey, do I invite her home like usual or not say anything?<P>She does know the door is open.<P>OK everyone I need all the help I can get. Pray for me to be able to swallow my pain, anger, and resentments.<P>Open to ALL comments or suggestions,<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>

Bill,<P>You're a smart guy... You can do this!<P>First off... Prayers for you... and R and A. <P>I know you've been following Sheryl's posts... remember whether Plan A-ing or Plan B-ing... you don't Love Bust!<P>You can always invite her back (except in Plan B... under right conditions)!<P>You can do it!<BR>You can do it!<BR>You can do it!<P>I believe in you... <P>Jim

Thanks Jim<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>

Hey BillJ<P>Resentment is written all over your face. W will see through the make up. I know your'e pissed. I was too. <P>Val saw through me and I thought I hid it pretty well. I had to actually forgive her and myself for the situation that I find us in. She didn't create it herself, I was a contributing force.<P>If roles were reversed would you really want to go back "home" to a hostile or unfriendly environment. No, I don't think so. You have to make it appealing for her to WANT to come back. <P>You HAVE the opportunity to do this. Not being mean but, DON'T [censored] IT UP! Make the most of your time together. NO, when are you coming back?, should we discuss the final divorce?, AND NO OB!<P>Think back to a time when your love was the take your breath away kind. Go there! Make yourself the attractive choice! She loved you enough to marry you. It can and will happen. I think so.<P>Sorry, I just have gotten such a positive attitude lately I want all to prosper!<BR> <P>------------------<BR>Wishing us all the Best.<P>Medic<P><BR>

You can do it, buddy. Just stay focus... your goal is not revenge, but to get back 100% of her.<P>We're with you.<P>ThisAlex<P>------------------<BR>If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them because they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of forgiveness.

You can do it, buddy. Just stay focused... you are not out for revenge, but to get back 100% of her.<P>We're with you.<P>ThisAlex<P>------------------<BR>If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them because they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of forgiveness.

Medic,<P>I have owned all of my part in this. Very intence couceling. I have forgive her. Hell I forgave her before it happened. I have forgiven myself.<P>I haven't forgiven OB<P>I'm trying to use this board to vent some of my resentments.<P>Truth is when I get around her I too turn to jelly.<P>Not doing that is going to be the real hard part.<P>Thanks for keeping me in check.<BR>Don't stop!<P>Alex, <P>thanks again for your support.<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>