I am feeling kinda low today, yesterday we had a fight, hadn't had one in quite some time ...like a month. I was going to go to the store and got into his wallet to get the grocery store club card and found a picture of a little girl in a cap and gown, pre-school age, I asked him about it and he looked at me in disbelief and said that she was a one of the people he works withs little girls and then followed up with so you were rummiging through my wallet. I clearly had the club card visible in the other hand. His reaction sent off alarms I told him his reaction startled me and that we needed to talk about this. He started yelling at me and said that he was done talking about this. So I left for the store. I couldn't talk to him hardly the rest of the day. He just shut me down. You know I really want to have children, obviously not now but someday, and he won't make love to me (won't is the word, said he isn't interested in sex) and to find that he has a little girls picture in his wallet...it makes me sad,<BR>any advice

Hi cpickle, I'm so sorry you are feeling low. I do understand that feeling. My H is also having an ea with a coworker that he won't give up!!! I have been with him for 13 years....physical intimacy betwwen us was frequent and seemingly satisfying to both of us.<P>When the EA was exposed he said he didn't remember making love to me. I find that so weird since even though we have 3 kids we would sometimes manage to go hide in the bedroom and make love in the middle of the day.......(right before the EA)<P>I know my H is obsessing about making love to the oP.. frankly i wish he would...it would probably burst the bubble.<P>It really makes you feel so rejected. My H seems to have given up on all "earthly" things.....material possessions, kids, house , family of origin...to obsess about the OP ... who can figure the foggy mind of the betrayer.<P>We do know that these things have a life span. It seems to me the physical ones have a shorter one. the EA seem to really have hooks!!!!!!!! I can't really compete since OP has him to herself all day at work. i just took myself out of the picture to let the work--coworking relationship stand on its own...he is mad, but now sees the kids a lot more!!!!!<P>Again, I'm so sorry for your hurt....Every time I start to really hurt or think about my situation too much...I think about what Lostva would say to herself..."oh...this is just the addiction talking" and keep moving forward.<P>Unfortunaelty since H doesn't live with me anymore I can only Plan a via the kids!!!!!<P>Hope you have a better day!