I need to vent about a recent visit of a friend of my husband's and mine, here goes:<P>He was married for 10 years. Granted, we all had doubts about the relationship from the very beginning. For one thing, our friend was 19 and his new bride, 26. <P>But they live their lives and we lived ours. They seemed to be particularly superficial, money, things, the appearance of things was the most important. But we just said, "That's just 'him' and 'her'" <P>Well, they divorced about 2 1/2 years ago, when their first born was 3 and their second was a newborn. <P>It turns out that she had been having affairs throughout their marriage, and then to add insult to injury, both children are not biologically his. <P>Amazingly, and this is a point in his favor, he continues to see the children, has them on weekends, and they think he's 'daddy.'<P>He however has been 'seeing' a woman for the last 2 1/2 years himself, we don't know if he started up with her before or after the divorce. She's is at least 10 years older than him (we haven't asked) and has SIX children all in the teens to early 20's. <P>Then he comes to visit and tells us that he is all about "simplifying his life." <P>My concern here is first and foremost about the children. They are in for a world of hurt, should either our friend or his ex let the cat out of the bag, 'Oh and by the way....he's not your real dad." And worse, "Your real dad was a one night stand and wants nothing to do with you!" (In fact both children have different fathers.)<P>I'm afraid that the friend might stop being a nice guy should he eventually get together with someone still in child bearing years. I think his current girlfriend may just be the transitional, help-me-get-through-this person. <P>Who knows really. It's just craziness. And the victims are the children being raised in this immature, chaotic environment while the adults are selfishly gratifying every impulse.<P>why don't people care about the kids? I mean, these days, sacrifice is a dirty word. Promises are made to be broken. Vows are meaningless. <P>Grrr. Thaks for letting me vent here, otherwise it would come out as gossip if I shared this info with friends! <P> <BR>