I POSTED THIS EARLIER UNDER THE TITLE "JUST THINKING BUT GOT ONLY ONE RESPONSE, NEED SOME FEEDBACK.<P>We are supossed to love and care about and make our mate feel comfortable around us.<P>Am I supossed to TRY to satify my wife needs, or should I also tell her something like "I love you so much that I'll wait for you"? (I did).<P>Wouldn't it be better if we show and express our love but don't tell them that we'll just wait? Expressing it in words, wouldn't be like condoning their actions, sort of "it's OK that you are out there, here's this jack...ss who will always wait".<P>I am not returning to my previous desperate attitude, just trying to learn more... Some women say that guys "think with their d..k", sometimes I thing W is thinking with her hormones, instead of with her neurons.<P>ThisAlex<P>------------------<BR>If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them because they have helped you learn about Trust and Awareness.<P>TO THAT POST BROWNPHDT REPLIED:<P>To me it seem like that is what I;m doing.<BR>Go ahead and get it out if your system, I'll still be her for you. Some times i think this is crazy<P>------------------<BR>brownphdt

Remember Genies suggestion? RE-read it.<P>Hang In,<BR>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>

ThisAlex. WilliamJ's right. Genie's definitely got some great ideas.<P>I sorta think that telling someone you'll wait for them falls out of the realm of a good Plan A. Sounds a little desperate. Sounds like pressure.<P>But being there, being supportive and being loving and lovable. That's a good think. Showing her w/ actions rather than words.<P>You hang in there, ok?<P>Lori

Hi,<P>I cheated on my husband and he is waiting for me patiently, i sometimes thank him for doing it since is giving me time for doing some thinking about what i want. But there is a thing, is good to wait but waiting to long just makes thing more difficult, in my opinion, maybe i am wrong who knows, i think that you just got to get on with your life, it must be hard but it has to be done, you cannot wait until she makes up her mind, because in this waiting thing i have made my husband waist 7 months of his life and i am still not sure what to do. You got to tell her, hey look, i will keep living my life and when you make up your mind let me know. You do nothing seeting down waiting for her, because if she does not comes back than what have you be waiting for? But ofcourse, i am just 22 years old so i do not have much experience tha 4 years of marrige.<P>Good luck.<P>excuse my english.<BR>Leticia.