<BR>Hi! We've been married 27 happy years with no problems till now.My husband and I are together all but 2 hrs. twice a week for errands.We also frequent a casino quite a bit,I play and he watches.One day I was going in wit my son and saw my husband driving out.I thought this was weird but he said Hewanted to surprise me if he won.Then 2 months later I found his calender with letters marked on the dates.The letters were shc 2x,shc 5x.I asked him what they meant he said he doesn't remember.I figured out they meant SAW HER CASINO 2 times that day.After 2 weeks of crying he finally said I was right.It was just a game he never talked to her,she doesn"t even know him she was just picked randomly for the game.What gets me is he did this while sitting next to me playing the slots.After I saw him there alone he never went alone again but still played the game with me there for almost 2 more months till I found the calender then it stopped.He did call the place twice hear her voice and hang up.He then wrote CHC-HV,another words called her casino heard voice.I feel so betrayed and hurt that he could do this and am thinking of seperation,he thinks I'm over reacting "it was just a stupid game".He is sorry and says he doesn"t know why he even did it.Does anyone have a thought on this? Did anyone ever come across somethin like this?Believe me there was no contact but I still feel cheated on!!!

Never been in your situation, but think your feelings are very legitamite. I sure I also would be VERY upset if my H was keeping track of how often he seen another woman, and then calling to hear her voice. Does he give an explanaion as to what made him do it? There had to be something going on with him and I think to move forward, you need to identify what it was that was missing.

Hi Shoni! I'm really glad you replied.I even made my H read it. He still says it was only a game and no intent for anything else.He says we have no problem and there's nothing wrong in our marriage.I do think there is a problem,I can't stop thinking of this for 9 weeks now.When I think I feel so sad I even cry my adult children have even noticed the change in me.I actually carry the calender around with me [pocket size].

Bringing this to the top to help SOS68

Just wanted to bring up my story so I can get thoughts about the latest info I was told by my H.